tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3314914268727443114.post5684134505826634263..comments2023-10-31T12:43:06.690-04:00Comments on NishmaBlog: Mussar: Learning to Love Toch'chahNishmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04237299801109329429noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3314914268727443114.post-5254113024218649882011-06-05T14:45:06.970-04:002011-06-05T14:45:06.970-04:00Tochechah is tricky stuff, On the one hand we wan...Tochechah is tricky stuff, On the one hand we want to raise the consciousness of the "other" but we need to do so w/o triggering a battle of egos.<br /><br />my preferred technique has been the use of rhetorical questions just as Aharon did to Moshe after the death of his two sons in Parshat Sh;mini. I have found that technique does NOT usually work, however. So I need to figure out a more effective technique.<br /><br />Ideally the target is shown something that let's him figure it out for himself w/o being blunt<br /><br />Sometimes a mashal or parable or a hypothetical works <br /><br />RRWRabbi R Wolpoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17363979745921237363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3314914268727443114.post-43322075881691948992011-05-22T11:42:36.313-04:002011-05-22T11:42:36.313-04:00If "learning to take it as well as you give i...If "learning to take it as well as you give it" wasn't a requirement, tochachah would be a lot more common.Garnel Ironhaerthttp://garnelironheart.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com