Saturday, 22 September 2018

Mussar: Emotions Distort Perceptions

From RRW 
"Just as love blindfolds you and you see no faults,
 so hate blindfolds you and you see no virtues. "

~ Moshe Ben Ezra

Tuesday, 18 September 2018

Mussar: Asking for M'chilah - No "Buts" About it

Originally published 8/20/11, 9:52 pm.

Avraham: Rabbi Rich, Yitzi asked me for m'chillah, but I don't feel like giving it to him

RRW: Aren't we taught not to be an achzar and to extend m'chillah when asked? ....

Av: I know, but, I still feel something's not right..

RRW: Is he a repeat offender?

Av: No - it's not that

RRW: Well Av, What is it?

Av: I guess Yitzi did say that he's sorry that he confused me with someone else BUT...he said a BUT in his apology

RRW: ??? Continue

Av: He didn't admit he was completely wrong, he passed the buck and partially blamed me anyway

RRW: Was he right?

Av: Hard to tell. What he blamed me for was something unintentional, hardly worth commenting upon. He seemed to be using blame to rationalize the behaviour that he was expressing remorse over.


Mussar: when apologizing don't qualify it with "BUTS"

If you do need to express a reservation or caveat try using a separate conversation or email to point out that issue. Otherwise, the BUT may be m'vateil the haratah.


Monday, 17 September 2018

Nishma-Parshah: Yom Kippur

Take a look at what's on
for Yom Kippur

Parsha: Noah, "Cappara vs. Teshuva"

Ari Fuld, A Lion of Israel, has Been Murdered

From RRW
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Ari Fuld, A Lion of Israel, has Been Murdered

Today the nation of Israel suffered an unimaginably devastating loss. Ari Fuld was a lion. He was stabbed in the back by a spineless cowardly terrorist, but before leaving the world, Ari was able to chase him down and shoot him. Ari was a warrior through and through.
There are few people in the world of which I could say "at least he is on the job. At least we have him leading us. At least someone is answering the call and fearlessly fighting for Israel with every drop of his strength." Ari Fuld was one of those few.
I still can not believe that I am speaking of Ari Fuld in past tense. This simply could not have been "random." This was the assassination of a general.
All of Am Yisrael is weeping right now. And if we're not, we should be. There are simply no words. No words.
May Hashem exact vengeance on this terrorist. His family. And the entire city of Yatta. Yatta - a nest of vipers that many other terrorists have emerged from. A city that is undoubtedly celebrating at this moment.
May the family of Ari Fuld zt"l be consoled knowing that Ari was a warrior for his people who will be remembered forever.
The Levaya will be at the Gush Etzion Cemetery at 11:00pm.