One upon a time we had a discussion on a list about attacking public pronouncements. Here is a story that illustrates that.
Abie: Anything said in a public way is fair game for criticism
Izzie: That's doesn't seem so menschlich. Maybe it's better to ask them to clarify privately first
Abie: that's so unnecessary, and a waste of time
Izzie: I see what you mean but I still think it's darchei shalom to try to prevent embarassment
Later that day
Sara [Abie's wife to a crowd] can you believe these guys they're mamash apikorsim bla bla bla
Becky [Izzy's wife]: what do you mean?
Sarah: did you see what so-and-so said
Becky: I don't think you're facts are correct
Abie intervening: Sarah dear, my I have a private word with you? ...
Izzy: what did you say?
Abie: I quietly corrected her facts and then was ready to read her the riot act, but I let it go and asked her to clarify what she said.
Izzy: Well since Sarah spoke to a crowd why didn't you ream her out in public?
Abie: what are you meshuggeneh? I can't afford a divorce?
Izzy: hmmm there must be some Mussar here somewhere. :-)
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RRW: Hameivin yavin
Shalom, RRW
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