From Derech Emet....
Larry Winget said:
Do not listen to people who talk bad about other people.
Do not listen to office gossip.
SOURCE: Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get a Life
(chapter 1, page 7) by Larry Winget, year 2004,
published by John Wiley & Sons Inc, Hoboken, New Jersey
Derech Emet's
MODERATOR COMMENT:
Larry Winget is not Jewish and knows nothing about:
Rambam, Ramban, Rashi, Tosefos. Vilna Gaon or Baal Shem Tov.
Yet he clearly understands that it is wrong to listen to
slander or gossip (in Hebrew: Lashon HaRa and Motzi Shem Ra).
Let this be a reminder for all Jews: to not speak slander or gossip, to not listen to slander or gossip, and to not believe slander or gossip.
Otherwise, how will we defend ourselves on the Day of Judgment [Yom HaDin] when the True Judge shows us that even Gentiles understood the wrongness of listening to rumors, but we who studied Torah did not?
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Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Saturday, 24 November 2012
Friday, 23 November 2012
For Dikduk Fans
«I thought that people on this list may be interested in this e-book...»
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3300 Hebrew Verbs
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
AVAILABLE FOR FREE DOWNLOADING AT:
http://halakhah.com/indexrst.html
3300 Hebrew Verbs
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Thursday, 22 November 2012
Changing Middle East looks depressingly like what it replaces
I think what hit me most about this article is that I found it on CNN.com -- and then to boot in "Fareed Zakaria GPS". The fact is though that it makes for interesting reading.
See http://globalpublicsquare.blogs.cnn.com/2012/11/21/changing-middle-east-looks-depressingly-like-what-it-replaces/?hpt=hp_t2
Rabbi Ben Hecht
See http://globalpublicsquare.blogs.cnn.com/2012/11/21/changing-middle-east-looks-depressingly-like-what-it-replaces/?hpt=hp_t2
Rabbi Ben Hecht
Addressing the International Conference of Chabad Shluchim » Office of the Chief Rabbi
«I never said this in public before. There was a point when I was a little involved – the hanhola [board of directors] in Lubavitch in London asked me just to get involved a little bit – there was a point in the 1970s and 80s, when the Rebbe developed a very interesting campaign – the sheva mitzvos benei noach campaign – to reach out not just to Jews, but also to non Jews.
I realized that in my new position as Chief Rabbi I could do just that. So I started broadcasting on the BBC, on radio, on television, writing for the national press. I wrote books read my non Jews as well as Jews and the effect was absolutely extraordinary. The more I spoke the more they wanted to hear – which certainly proves they weren't Jewish. (Laughter.) The more I wrote the more they wanted to read, and you know what that experience told me – not only the wisdom, the vast foresight of the Rebbe in understanding that the world was ready to hear a Jewish message – but it taught me something else as well. And I want you never to forget these words.
Non Jews respect Jews who respect Judaism.»
Addressing the International Conference of Chabad Shluchim » Office of the Chief Rabbi
http://www.chiefrabbi.org/2011/11/20/chief-rabbis-address-at-the-international-conference-of-chabad-shluchim/#.UJu4Km8fKSo
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Wednesday, 21 November 2012
What's New with Hamas?
The answer:
Mursi instead of Mubarak!
Wall Street Journal
10 Jan., 2009
Muslims Against Hamas
http://mobile2.wsj.com/device/article.php?CALL_URL=http://online.wsj.com/article/SB123154855613269959.html?
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Mursi instead of Mubarak!
Wall Street Journal
10 Jan., 2009
«Mr. Mubarak has good reason to want to see Hamas humbled: As the Palestinian franchise of his own suppressed Muslim Brotherhood, it poses a direct threat to his rule. The same goes for Palestinian President Mahmoud Abbas and Sunni regimes like Saudi Arabia, which see Hamas as another Iranian proxy in the Sunni heartland. Their views, too, are being expressed sotto voce.»
Muslims Against Hamas
http://mobile2.wsj.com/device/article.php?CALL_URL=http://online.wsj.com/article/SB123154855613269959.html?
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Washington Post - Morning Bits
«Unsurprising. "Fifty-seven percent of Americans said Israel's current military campaign in Gaza is justified, while a quarter said it isn't, according to a new CNN/ORC International poll released Monday. Seventy-four percent of Republicans said the action is justified, compared with 59 percent of independents and 41 percent of Democrats." Greater support for Israel among Republicans than Democrats has been going on for some time.»
http://washingtonpost.com/blogs/right-turn/post/morning-bits/2012/11/19/4274e6ec-3296-11e2-bfd5-e202b6d7b501_blog.html
Mobile Link:
http://m.washingtonpost.com/blogs/right-turn/post/morning-bits/2012/11/19/4274e6ec-3296-11e2-bfd5-e202b6d7b501_blog.html
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Tuesday, 20 November 2012
Mid-East War 2: A Second Comment
The End of War:
An Open Letter to Rabbi Eliyahu Fink
By Rabbi Jeffrey Woolf
The End of War: An Open Letter to Rabbi Eliyahu Fink | Jeffrey Woolf | Ops & Blogs | The Times of Israel
http://blogs.timesofisrael.com/the-end-of-war-an-open-letter-to-rabbi-eliyahu-fink/
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
An Open Letter to Rabbi Eliyahu Fink
By Rabbi Jeffrey Woolf
«There is a serious flaw in your argument, however. It lies in assuming that ultimately 'people have the capacity to love and care for anyone.' I assume what you mean is that if we all sat down to speak as equals and friends, that differences of opinion would be resolved and war avoided. Your sentiments are certainly representative of the way most people in the West think today. However, your sentiment (and theirs) is seriously flawed. You (and they) have fallen into the logical fallacy that my friend and colleague, Professor Richard Landes, calls 'cognitive egocentrism.' In other words, you project your own mentality, values and "way of seeing the world" onto others. The result is an attitude that is, albeit innocently, disrespectful and paternalist.»
The End of War: An Open Letter to Rabbi Eliyahu Fink | Jeffrey Woolf | Ops & Blogs | The Times of Israel
http://blogs.timesofisrael.com/the-end-of-war-an-open-letter-to-rabbi-eliyahu-fink/
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
The Mid-East War
A Comment from Menachem Pritsker to
War Baffles Me | Pacific Jewish Center | Rabbi
http://finkorswim.com/2012/11/15/war-baffles-me/
Do you have any idea what's going on here?
First of all, the idea that there are naive 18 years olds fighting the wars of an older generation is just plain false. I'm 30, and I'm one of the younger guys in my unit. Most of the army is in fact made up of reserve units like mine.
Second, you're treating this war as if it's some far off Vietnam, where we only hear about it in news reports (as you are). This is a war that's being experienced by everyone in the country! You think there's a corner somewhere in this country where the there's a gan yeladim without a contingency plan in place in case there's an air raid siren?
The "18 year olds" who are off to fight this war are just as worried about their mothers at home as their mothers are worried for them. If I get called back up, and I pray I wont (having just gotten home last week from a month of miluim), I'll be marching off with the intent to kill the people who are trying to kill me and my family. Nothing more, nothing less.
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
War Baffles Me | Pacific Jewish Center | Rabbi
http://finkorswim.com/2012/11/15/war-baffles-me/
Do you have any idea what's going on here?
First of all, the idea that there are naive 18 years olds fighting the wars of an older generation is just plain false. I'm 30, and I'm one of the younger guys in my unit. Most of the army is in fact made up of reserve units like mine.
Second, you're treating this war as if it's some far off Vietnam, where we only hear about it in news reports (as you are). This is a war that's being experienced by everyone in the country! You think there's a corner somewhere in this country where the there's a gan yeladim without a contingency plan in place in case there's an air raid siren?
The "18 year olds" who are off to fight this war are just as worried about their mothers at home as their mothers are worried for them. If I get called back up, and I pray I wont (having just gotten home last week from a month of miluim), I'll be marching off with the intent to kill the people who are trying to kill me and my family. Nothing more, nothing less.
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Monday, 19 November 2012
How should we pronounce "ibn" as in "ibn Ezra"?
«Before I outline the problem, let's lay out some assumptions and facts.On the Main Line: How should we pronounce "ibn" as in "ibn Ezra"?
First, there is no doubt that the Hebrew אבן, sometimes written as ן'י, used as part of the name of many Spanish Jews and their descendants is the Arabic word ابن, son of. The usage is equivalent to the Hebrew בן, although it need not always refer to the person's father. It often refers to a grandfather or other ancestor, which is also an accepted, expanded use of בן. Furthermore, in Arabic the word is pronounced ibn, subject to an important qualification. The qualification is that it appears that the Spanish Arabs did not pronounce it ibn, but rather pronounced it aben (please note, incidentally, that the vowel shift here is the same as that between two of the possible pronunciation of the word רבי). The following entry is from E.J. Brill's first encyclopaedia of Islam, 1913-1936, Volume 1: ...»
http://onthemainline.blogspot.com/2010/01/how-should-we-pronounce-ibn-as-in-ibn.html?m=1
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Sunday, 18 November 2012
Can Reform Judaism Get Its Mojo Back?
«In 1969 Rabbi Richard Levy, later to become president of the Central Conference of American Rabbis, wrote that the American Reform synagogue has "defaulted" on all three of its traditional functions: building community, nurturing study, and engaging in meaningful worship. Since he wrote, the default has only deepened. If it is not addressed now, there may be no future opportunity for repair.»
Jewish Ideas Daily » Daily Features » Can Reform Judaism Get Its Mojo Back?
http://www.jewishideasdaily.com/5332/features/can-reform-judaism-get-its-mojo-back/
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Saturday, 17 November 2012
Mussar: Enlightening Words to Live By
Words to Live By
from Rav Kook Z"L:
על-כן הצדיקים הטהורים אינם קובלים על החושך, אלא מוסיפים אור; אינם קובלים על הרשעה, אלא מוסיפים צדק; אינם קובלים על הכפירה, אלא מוסיפים אמונה; אינם קובלים על הבערות, אלא מוסיפים חכמה.
Therefore, the pure righteous do not complain of the dark, but increase the light; they do not complain of evil, but increase justice; they do not complain of heresy, but increase faith; they do not complain of ignorance, but increase wisdom. (From "Arpilei Tohar", p. 27–28)
Courtesy of
Joel Zeff ישעיהו זף
And Re-posted with his kind persmission
Echoed by:
"Better to Light One Candle than to Curse the Darkness"
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
from Rav Kook Z"L:
על-כן הצדיקים הטהורים אינם קובלים על החושך, אלא מוסיפים אור; אינם קובלים על הרשעה, אלא מוסיפים צדק; אינם קובלים על הכפירה, אלא מוסיפים אמונה; אינם קובלים על הבערות, אלא מוסיפים חכמה.
Therefore, the pure righteous do not complain of the dark, but increase the light; they do not complain of evil, but increase justice; they do not complain of heresy, but increase faith; they do not complain of ignorance, but increase wisdom. (From "Arpilei Tohar", p. 27–28)
Courtesy of
Joel Zeff ישעיהו זף
And Re-posted with his kind persmission
Echoed by:
"Better to Light One Candle than to Curse the Darkness"
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Friday, 16 November 2012
Goin' to the Kiddush
This song was inspired by The Dixie Cups' famous hit, "Goin to the Chapel"
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cholent
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cookies
Gee I really love meat and we're
gonna eat fruit and cake
Goin' to the shul for kiddush.
Shabbos is here
The sky is blue (hopefully)
The chazzan will sing
as if he knew
Saturday's the day
for cake and cholent too
and we'll never be hungry anymore.
Because we're
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cholent
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cookies
Gee I really love meat and we're
gonna eat fruit and cake
Goin' to the shul for kiddush.
Tzibbur will sing
The sun will shine (hopefully)
I'll have cake, cookies and wine.
We'll eat until
the end of time
and we'll never be hungry anymore.
Because we're
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cholent
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cookies
Gee I really love meat and we're
gonna eat fruit and cake
Goin' to the shul for kiddush.
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~ This song was inspired by The Dixie Cups' most famous hit in 1964, "Goin' to the Chapel"
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cholent
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cookies
Gee I really love meat and we're
gonna eat fruit and cake
Goin' to the shul for kiddush.
Shabbos is here
The sky is blue (hopefully)
The chazzan will sing
as if he knew
Saturday's the day
for cake and cholent too
and we'll never be hungry anymore.
Because we're
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cholent
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cookies
Gee I really love meat and we're
gonna eat fruit and cake
Goin' to the shul for kiddush.
Tzibbur will sing
The sun will shine (hopefully)
I'll have cake, cookies and wine.
We'll eat until
the end of time
and we'll never be hungry anymore.
Because we're
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cholent
Goin' to the kiddush and we're
gonna eat cookies
Gee I really love meat and we're
gonna eat fruit and cake
Goin' to the shul for kiddush.
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~ This song was inspired by The Dixie Cups' most famous hit in 1964, "Goin' to the Chapel"
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Thursday, 15 November 2012
More On Storm Sandy - the RCA Response
Posted with permission
The response of RCA members and their communities to the victims of Hurricane Sandy has been and continues to be gratifying.
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We received the following from our chaver Jonathan Muskat of Oceanside, NY:
The building of the Young Israel of Oceanside was heavily damaged. We lost three Torah scrolls and thousands of sefarim. All of our youth program furniture and toys were destroyed. Insurance proceeds will not cover all of our losses. Additionally, we will need to financially help a number of families who have been devastated by the hurricane. We have therefore set up an emergency Young Israel hurricane relief fund. If members of your community would like to make a donation or if you would like to make a donation from your charity fund, you may either go to our website www://yioceanside.org
and make your donation online or send your checks directly to the Young Israel of Oceanside, 150 Waukena Avenue, Oceanside, NY 11572.
Please make your checks out to the Young Israel of Oceanside and mark your envelope Hurricane Emergency Fund. Should you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact Rabbi Jonathan Muskat at 516-670-2699. Thank you for caring.
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The RCA Health Care Chaplains, under the chairmanship of our chaver Zev Shostak, are prepared to visit communities to offer counseling and support. Anyone interested in pursuing this meaningful service should contact Rabbi Shostak at 914-603-1964 or at zschostak@gmail.com
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
The response of RCA members and their communities to the victims of Hurricane Sandy has been and continues to be gratifying.
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We received the following from our chaver Jonathan Muskat of Oceanside, NY:
The building of the Young Israel of Oceanside was heavily damaged. We lost three Torah scrolls and thousands of sefarim. All of our youth program furniture and toys were destroyed. Insurance proceeds will not cover all of our losses. Additionally, we will need to financially help a number of families who have been devastated by the hurricane. We have therefore set up an emergency Young Israel hurricane relief fund. If members of your community would like to make a donation or if you would like to make a donation from your charity fund, you may either go to our website www://yioceanside.org
and make your donation online or send your checks directly to the Young Israel of Oceanside, 150 Waukena Avenue, Oceanside, NY 11572.
Please make your checks out to the Young Israel of Oceanside and mark your envelope Hurricane Emergency Fund. Should you have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact Rabbi Jonathan Muskat at 516-670-2699. Thank you for caring.
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The RCA Health Care Chaplains, under the chairmanship of our chaver Zev Shostak, are prepared to visit communities to offer counseling and support. Anyone interested in pursuing this meaningful service should contact Rabbi Shostak at 914-603-1964 or at zschostak@gmail.com
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
P. Toldot - Alay Kil'latcha B'nee
As per p'shat Rivkah took the onus of any punishment due Yaakov upon herself ...
Al pee Remez ALAY may be understood as Roshei Teivot for:
Ayin - Eisav
Lamed - Lavan
Yud - Yosef
The three main "crises" of Yaakov's career. Yaakov's "curse" would consist of difficulties associated with these three individuals.
I wish to acknowledge my source, the late R Yehudah Hilewitz Z"L, a fellow RIETS musmach who passed away at a relatively young age. May his memory serve as a Blessing for his Family and for all Israel.
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Al pee Remez ALAY may be understood as Roshei Teivot for:
Ayin - Eisav
Lamed - Lavan
Yud - Yosef
The three main "crises" of Yaakov's career. Yaakov's "curse" would consist of difficulties associated with these three individuals.
I wish to acknowledge my source, the late R Yehudah Hilewitz Z"L, a fellow RIETS musmach who passed away at a relatively young age. May his memory serve as a Blessing for his Family and for all Israel.
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Wednesday, 14 November 2012
113th US Congress has 22 Jews
The Chosen: Jews in the 113th Congress | JTA - Jewish & Israel News
http://www.jta.org/news/article/2012/11/07/3111351/jews-in-the-113th-congress
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
http://www.jta.org/news/article/2012/11/07/3111351/jews-in-the-113th-congress
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Tuesday, 13 November 2012
JVO: Intermarriage
Jewish Values Online (jewishvaluesonline.org)
is a website that asks the Jewish view on a variety of
issues, some specifically Jewish and some from the world
around us -- and then presents answers from each of the
dominations of Judaism. Nishmablog's Blogmaster Rabbi
Wolpoe and Nishma's Founding Director, Rabbi Hecht, both serve
as Orthodox members of their Panel of Scholars.
This post continues the weekly series on the Nishmablog that features responses on JVO by one of our two Nishma Scholars who are on this panel. This week's presentation is to one of the questions to which Rabbi Hecht responded.
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Question: We have made decision not to attend weddings between Jew and non-Jew as a statement that we do not approve of intermarriage. But now that our Jewish nephew has married a non-Jew, we felt that we should give him a wedding gift since it was after the fact. We felt that not attending the wedding was enough of a statement. I know that it sounds illogical, but we didn't want our family to think that we are mean people, but rather we were only making a statement before the fact and would not change the situation. Were we wrong in giving a wedding gift after the fact in this situation?
This post continues the weekly series on the Nishmablog that features responses on JVO by one of our two Nishma Scholars who are on this panel. This week's presentation is to one of the questions to which Rabbi Hecht responded.
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Question: We have made decision not to attend weddings between Jew and non-Jew as a statement that we do not approve of intermarriage. But now that our Jewish nephew has married a non-Jew, we felt that we should give him a wedding gift since it was after the fact. We felt that not attending the wedding was enough of a statement. I know that it sounds illogical, but we didn't want our family to think that we are mean people, but rather we were only making a statement before the fact and would not change the situation. Were we wrong in giving a wedding gift after the fact in this situation?
In
my first draft of a response to your question, my focus was on the
inherent conflict in values that you felt and which I believed motivated
you to ask this question – your question not really being whether to
inherently give a wedding present or not but rather whether to do so
given that you had already decided to make a statement in not going to
the wedding. You obviously felt that it was inherently proper to give a
present but wondered about the effect of this action on your previous
stance. I saw in this desire to give a gift a recognition of the value
of tolerance within our society – and from which we Jews have greatly
benefited – which calls upon us to respect the right of individuals to
make personal decisions of this nature even though we may disagree. So I
saw your question in the broader sense of how one can balance a
personal value stance on an issue with the value which you also accept
of tolerance of another who acts in disagreement with this viewpoint.
While
I still believe that this issue is still very much part of your
question, upon further reflection I began to recognize that in providing
what I believe to be a Torah response to your issue, beyond simply
responding to the conflict in values that you experienced, it would be
first important to actually also look at the singular issues in
themselves. Should one attend an intermarriage? A similar question could
be asked in regard to attending a wedding between two Jews where
non-kosher food is served or attending a same-sex wedding. At issue is
the involvement one should have in an event that inherently includes an
expression of a position with which one disagrees. Does my attendance
reflect some acceptance of this position? Is it thus proper for me to
attend?
The
matter of the gift raises similar questions but also touches upon the
more private issue of how one is to relate to another’s personal
feelings. Your nephew experienced a joyful event, from his perspective,
and you wish to share in this joy. On this level, you do not necessarily
see this as reflecting a public expression of your stance and thus wish
to give a gift. The more inherent question, though, may be whether it
is proper to still share in this joy. Is it right, thus, in any such
circumstance to give a gift? This individual is still your nephew.
The
conflict of values that you are experiencing is still clearly a major
part of this issue and there is a challenge in balancing one’s views
with tolerance and respect for an opposing viewpoint. The essential
question, however, is how the Torah views the entire situation. How are
we to view a Jew who acts contrary to our understanding of how a Jew
should behave? How are we to act in response to such behaviour? What we
may find is that the various value considerations that we must undertake
in response to such questions may actually yield what could be
perceived to be contradictory behaviour.
Our first obligation is to follow Jewish Law so our initial question may be whether there is any violation of Halacha
in attending an intermarriage. I am not speaking at this time in regard
to the impression that one would be giving through this attendance but
simply whether it is wrong simply to attend in its own right. There is
an important distinction between the two. In regard to the latter
perspective, we are solely focused on the behaviour itself. In regard to
the first perspective, we are focused on the perception of others. If
we state that a behaviour is inherently wrong, than the answer that we
should not undertake this behaviour is pretty straightforward. If,
however, we state that the issue really concerns the perception of
others, than the evaluation of this perception is of major significance
in regard to answering this question of behaviour.
To
illustrate this issue, we could ask whether it is wrong for a person to
watch another Jew eat a ham sandwich. We are not discussing in any way
assisting this Jew in the consumption of this sandwich; that would
involve concerns for the prohibition of lifnei ever and the further Rabbinic edicts to not assist an individual in sinning (see Sefer HaChinuch, Mitzvah 232).
Is there a problem with just being a spectator of a sinful action? It
seems that there could be – that viewing something negative should be
avoided – and there is also a concern for being in the company of sinful
people but these are not absolute prohibitions but rather guides that
must be considered in the greater context. (We could also ask the
question of what exactly is the sin in the actual intermarriage wedding
ceremony.) I would contend that you could not really say that it is
absolutely forbidden to attend an intermarriage ceremony but that it
should be something that someone should refrain from attending. The
further question would then be the second part of this issue – the
perception of others.
In
this regard, there are actually two considerations that must be kept in
mind. One is the perception, through attendance, that one is in
agreement with what is occurring. This touches upon the issue of ma’arit ayin,
of giving an impression about Jewish Law and one’s relationship to it
that is negative. If people will assume, through attendance at an
intermarriage that one is okay with it than this is a problem. It is a
value not only to be observant of Jewish Law but also to be perceived as
one who is so committed. So there is a concern in attending an
intermarriage that you will be seen as one is believes it to be okay.
There
is, however, also a duty of care in regard to other Jews, to assist in
ensuring their observance and continued association with the Jewish
world. This is found, in its simplest terms, in the command to rebuke
other Jews if they act in violation of the law. See Sefer HaChinuch, Mitzvah 239.
A more thorough study of this command would show, though, that the
command is not simply to rebuke but to take steps that would draw people
to observe the law – and, as such, to specifically not rebuke if that
will have negative consequences. See, further, Rabbi Moshe Weinberger, Jewish Outreach.
In this regard, there could even be an argument to attend an
intermarriage if there is a concern that non-attendance would create a
rift that would drive the Jewish member of the couple further away from
the Jewish community. (This is actually a further concern when it is the
woman who is the Jewish partner for at issue would also be any future
children of the union.) It is within this perception that we would also
be highly concerned with issues such as tolerance and respect for
individual decision-making. Showing disrespect to another is clearly a
way to drive someone away from having any interest in Torah. The
ultimate concern is the long term effect, not solely the short term
perception.
In
conclusion, what we find is that situations such as these demand true
analysis and sensitivity to all the issues involved. In the end, the
proper behaviour may be contradictory in its various details – and as
such it may be that not attending yet giving a gift was the proper final
conclusion in regard to what to do. On one hand, you wish to show your
allegiance to the Jewish world. On the other hand, you wish to show your
love for your nephew, not just abstractly but to you nephew. Both of
these objectives indeed have value and so determining what to do is
essentially most complex.
Monday, 12 November 2012
P. Chayyei Sarah - "Sh'nei Chayei Sarah"
The word Sh'nei literally means "Years of"
However it is also a homophone for the Hebrew word for "two" [f.]
Thus, we have d'rashot on the question - Just what were the TWO lives of Sarah Immeinu?
1. Perhaps the most popular m'haleich is that Sarah had one life in this world, and a second life in the World to Come - Olam Habba.
I'd like to go even further -
2. Sarah had two Careers
The First was as Avraham Avinu's wife
The Second was as Yitzchok's Avinu's Mother.
One may see how protective Sarah became in P. Vayeira 21:10 re: the expulsion of Hagar and Yishma'el
3. From a Historical Perspective Sarah also had two roles
The First was as a living, breathing human, a Tzadeket in the flesh.
The Second is her LEGACY, after she passed she became Sarah Immeinu, a matriarch and an icon for all future Israelites forever.
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
However it is also a homophone for the Hebrew word for "two" [f.]
Thus, we have d'rashot on the question - Just what were the TWO lives of Sarah Immeinu?
1. Perhaps the most popular m'haleich is that Sarah had one life in this world, and a second life in the World to Come - Olam Habba.
I'd like to go even further -
2. Sarah had two Careers
The First was as Avraham Avinu's wife
The Second was as Yitzchok's Avinu's Mother.
One may see how protective Sarah became in P. Vayeira 21:10 re: the expulsion of Hagar and Yishma'el
3. From a Historical Perspective Sarah also had two roles
The First was as a living, breathing human, a Tzadeket in the flesh.
The Second is her LEGACY, after she passed she became Sarah Immeinu, a matriarch and an icon for all future Israelites forever.
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Sunday, 11 November 2012
The Poppy
On this day, Nov. 11, Canada marks Remembrance Day, a day the nation remembers the many who fell in the wars that the nation fought. Nov. 11, of course, is the anniversary of the end of the First World War, which for Canadians has special significance in that this was the first war in which Canada fought as an independent nation.
Throughout the country -- indeed throughout it would seem the British Commonwealth -- preparation for the day is marked by the wearing of a 'poppy' -- a cloth rendering of the flower that, for Canadians, is intertwined with this day and World War 1. It was a Canadian who wrote the poem In Flanders Fields which speaks of the graves of soldiers who fell in this war -- these graves being in fields where the poppies grow. The poppy has thus become a sign of remembrance, of the soldiers who have fallen in defense of the country and its values.
This leads to my reason for posting this note on the blog. It has always been my belief that Jews should emphatically ensure that they participate in this memorial and wear a poppy. Once I see the stands of these 'poppies' available a few weeks before Nov. 11, I make sure to get one and to wear it on my outer coat. I think that it is proper for all Canadians to do so -- and if you watch a Raptors game in the days leading up to Nov. 11, you will notice all the coaches wearing one -- but I think that it specifically important for us as Jews to do so. It is our way of being makker tov, of joining in the respect that we have for those who fought for our freedom -- and in me wearing it noticeably as Jew with my kippa, I show the world that I am appreciative of this fact.
There are times that we must see beyond the narrow concept of rejecting all that is outside of us. There are times for us to show that we see what is outside of us and recognize it for its value.
Take care
RBH
Throughout the country -- indeed throughout it would seem the British Commonwealth -- preparation for the day is marked by the wearing of a 'poppy' -- a cloth rendering of the flower that, for Canadians, is intertwined with this day and World War 1. It was a Canadian who wrote the poem In Flanders Fields which speaks of the graves of soldiers who fell in this war -- these graves being in fields where the poppies grow. The poppy has thus become a sign of remembrance, of the soldiers who have fallen in defense of the country and its values.
This leads to my reason for posting this note on the blog. It has always been my belief that Jews should emphatically ensure that they participate in this memorial and wear a poppy. Once I see the stands of these 'poppies' available a few weeks before Nov. 11, I make sure to get one and to wear it on my outer coat. I think that it is proper for all Canadians to do so -- and if you watch a Raptors game in the days leading up to Nov. 11, you will notice all the coaches wearing one -- but I think that it specifically important for us as Jews to do so. It is our way of being makker tov, of joining in the respect that we have for those who fought for our freedom -- and in me wearing it noticeably as Jew with my kippa, I show the world that I am appreciative of this fact.
There are times that we must see beyond the narrow concept of rejecting all that is outside of us. There are times for us to show that we see what is outside of us and recognize it for its value.
Take care
RBH
Saturday, 10 November 2012
Mussar: Sleeping Lishmah
From Derech Emet Group
Turei Zahab commentary on Shulchan Aruch, chelek Eben HaEzer, Siman 25, near end of paragraph 1:
He who sleeps more in order to strengthen his mind for Torah [study], the Holy One Blessed Be He grants him his portion in Torah, the same as [He does for a] person who reduces his sleep and makes himself suffer [to increase his Torah study], because everything follows after the intentions...
EXPLANATION: This probably refers to going to sleep earlier, not waking up later, which could cause a Jew to miss the correct time to recite Shema.
CHRONOLOGY: Rabbi David HaLevi was born in 1586 and died in 1667.
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Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Turei Zahab commentary on Shulchan Aruch, chelek Eben HaEzer, Siman 25, near end of paragraph 1:
He who sleeps more in order to strengthen his mind for Torah [study], the Holy One Blessed Be He grants him his portion in Torah, the same as [He does for a] person who reduces his sleep and makes himself suffer [to increase his Torah study], because everything follows after the intentions...
EXPLANATION: This probably refers to going to sleep earlier, not waking up later, which could cause a Jew to miss the correct time to recite Shema.
CHRONOLOGY: Rabbi David HaLevi was born in 1586 and died in 1667.
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Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Friday, 9 November 2012
Far Rockaway, 5 Towns Update
From Rav Yehuda L. Oppenheimer, re-posted with permission
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
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Although I already sent money from our Shul Discretionary Fund and have asked from the pulpit last Shabbos that people contribute, we did not receive much of a response, unfortunately.
I decided that both לשמה and for the ability to do more effective fundraising, I should go myself to some affected areas and see what I could do to help. Overcoming the fear that I need to preserve the half tank of gasoline that I had left, I went yesterday to the Five Towns.
My first stop (after passing numerous mile long gas lines) was at Yeshiva Sh'or Yoshuv on the border of Far Rockaway and Lawrence. One was struck ,when entering the very elaborate and fancy building, and knowing of the general affluence of the area, how many people were there in the middle of the day, picking up their laundry from a communal cleaner, getting some canned food, charging their cellphones, (some actually learning in the Beis HaMedrash, and most of all, gratefully taking advantage of the catered breakfast, lunch and supper that had been provided by local caterers (yesterday it was Shick's) and served by local volunteers. Similar operations have been set up in other locations, including but not limited to Young Israel of Woodmere (I understand that Rav Billet suffered major damage to his home), Young Israel of Long Beach, Chabad of Five Towns, and others.
Achiezer had a table set up for coordinating volunteers, and I reported ready to be helpful in any way that they could use me. They tried to call several on their list of requested needs. This list was compiled from forms that had been distributed with an extensive questionnaire asking what type of help was needed, including: food, clothing, blankets, help with cleaning basements, generators, sump pumps, moving furniture, rides (for those whose cars were totaled), place to stay (Shabbos/weekday) etc etc. The needs are mind-boggling.
It was difficult to reach anyone as so many phones are down and cellphones uncharged, but eventually I was sent with three yeshiva fellows to a lakeside home in Woodmere. Passing many homes with large piles of garbage and discarded items all over, we came to an affluent home, which was obviously previously quite gracious. I would guesstimate that two weeks ago it would be described as a $4 million home. In the front yard were endless large piles of wood, refuse, ruined furniture, clothing, etc etc. Walking inside the home, there were piles everywhere of endless stuff in varying states of salvagability, and a shell-shocked older couple who were being assisted by their grandson. They had flood insurance on their homeowners policy, as they lived near a lake, but it covered only the actual structure, none of the contents. The business that they owned nearby, including a new bakery completed only a few months ago, is a total loss. Although they had managed to find a few construction workers to help, they critically needed help in getting the wet and ruined flooring and sheet-rock out of the basement before rot and mildew set in, which would be much harder and very expensive to clean, if at all possible given the extensive damage. Hence, the call for help.
For the next three hours, the four of us knocked down sheet-rock, shoveled debris, and carried bag after bag of garbage out of the house, stripping down the floor to the concrete and discarding the shmutz. It was hard work, but it felt wonderful to actually be doing something to help another Yid, presumably people who up until now had been givers but now were in a position of having to take. Baruch Hashem we finished most of the work before it got too dark to do anymore, and returned home exhausted, trying to drive carefully in the snow that had come in the new storm which functioned as a "sucker punch" to these communities while they are down.
I am writing this not for accolades, but to encourage others to do the same. If you are in the area, perhaps you can organize a crew of some able volunteers to come down and help. Not only are all hands on deck needed but it gives the hard hit people, many of whom are by now suffering for close to two weeks with no power or heat or housing, knowing that they have suffered huge losses, some much needed chizuk.
If you want to organize a group to go help, you can be in touch with Achiezer at hurricanefund@achiezer.org, or call them at 516-791-4444.
May הקב"ה bless us, help the victims and יאמר לצרותינו די!
Yehuda L. Oppenheimer
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
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Although I already sent money from our Shul Discretionary Fund and have asked from the pulpit last Shabbos that people contribute, we did not receive much of a response, unfortunately.
I decided that both לשמה and for the ability to do more effective fundraising, I should go myself to some affected areas and see what I could do to help. Overcoming the fear that I need to preserve the half tank of gasoline that I had left, I went yesterday to the Five Towns.
My first stop (after passing numerous mile long gas lines) was at Yeshiva Sh'or Yoshuv on the border of Far Rockaway and Lawrence. One was struck ,when entering the very elaborate and fancy building, and knowing of the general affluence of the area, how many people were there in the middle of the day, picking up their laundry from a communal cleaner, getting some canned food, charging their cellphones, (some actually learning in the Beis HaMedrash, and most of all, gratefully taking advantage of the catered breakfast, lunch and supper that had been provided by local caterers (yesterday it was Shick's) and served by local volunteers. Similar operations have been set up in other locations, including but not limited to Young Israel of Woodmere (I understand that Rav Billet suffered major damage to his home), Young Israel of Long Beach, Chabad of Five Towns, and others.
Achiezer had a table set up for coordinating volunteers, and I reported ready to be helpful in any way that they could use me. They tried to call several on their list of requested needs. This list was compiled from forms that had been distributed with an extensive questionnaire asking what type of help was needed, including: food, clothing, blankets, help with cleaning basements, generators, sump pumps, moving furniture, rides (for those whose cars were totaled), place to stay (Shabbos/weekday) etc etc. The needs are mind-boggling.
It was difficult to reach anyone as so many phones are down and cellphones uncharged, but eventually I was sent with three yeshiva fellows to a lakeside home in Woodmere. Passing many homes with large piles of garbage and discarded items all over, we came to an affluent home, which was obviously previously quite gracious. I would guesstimate that two weeks ago it would be described as a $4 million home. In the front yard were endless large piles of wood, refuse, ruined furniture, clothing, etc etc. Walking inside the home, there were piles everywhere of endless stuff in varying states of salvagability, and a shell-shocked older couple who were being assisted by their grandson. They had flood insurance on their homeowners policy, as they lived near a lake, but it covered only the actual structure, none of the contents. The business that they owned nearby, including a new bakery completed only a few months ago, is a total loss. Although they had managed to find a few construction workers to help, they critically needed help in getting the wet and ruined flooring and sheet-rock out of the basement before rot and mildew set in, which would be much harder and very expensive to clean, if at all possible given the extensive damage. Hence, the call for help.
For the next three hours, the four of us knocked down sheet-rock, shoveled debris, and carried bag after bag of garbage out of the house, stripping down the floor to the concrete and discarding the shmutz. It was hard work, but it felt wonderful to actually be doing something to help another Yid, presumably people who up until now had been givers but now were in a position of having to take. Baruch Hashem we finished most of the work before it got too dark to do anymore, and returned home exhausted, trying to drive carefully in the snow that had come in the new storm which functioned as a "sucker punch" to these communities while they are down.
I am writing this not for accolades, but to encourage others to do the same. If you are in the area, perhaps you can organize a crew of some able volunteers to come down and help. Not only are all hands on deck needed but it gives the hard hit people, many of whom are by now suffering for close to two weeks with no power or heat or housing, knowing that they have suffered huge losses, some much needed chizuk.
If you want to organize a group to go help, you can be in touch with Achiezer at hurricanefund@achiezer.org, or call them at 516-791-4444.
May הקב"ה bless us, help the victims and יאמר לצרותינו די!
Yehuda L. Oppenheimer
Thursday, 8 November 2012
Important Message from National Council of Young Israels
Forwarded with Permission from the RCA ...
Shalom and Best Regsrds,
RRW
*****
Our community has been hurt and very badly. You have certainly seen the news, videos on YouTube, Facebook and Twitter posts, heard the reports or spoken and been in touch with friends and relatives on the Northeast coast. Perhaps you are even hosting some family, friends or 'new' friends for a few days or a weekend as the community begins to cleanup and heal. The devastation both physically and emotionally is beyond words. The weather has quickly turned cold and the gas lines continue for hours on end. There are moments when it seems that the despair will not end. Individuals, families and communities alike have, in many cases, lost everything they had from clothing to homes to shuls.
Neighborhoods that have been the envy of our collective community have been shattered by Sandy. Some 20 feet from where I write this my neighbor is having the foundation of his home inspected and overhauled. There are no explanations.
Some of our fellow Young Israels took a beating. The Young Israel of Brighton Beach in Brooklyn suffered major water damage which resulted in an electrical fire knocking out their entire system for the foreseeable future. The Young Israel of Oceanside lost three sifrei Torah, thousands of seforim and all of their youth furniture and toys and sustained heavy damage to the main sanctuary. There are many more similar reports.
On the ground many wonderful and inspiring people and families have provided living space, clothing, food, water and gas for those who are in need. Many local organizations, including local Young Israels and not-so-local Young Israels have mobilized crews to cleanup or provide heat and generators for those who are in need. One set of examples is the Young Israels of Woodmere, Long Beach, Wavecrest & Bayswater, among many others in Brooklyn, Queens, Long Island, New Jersey and Connecticut that have been severely damaged by the storm that have nonetheless become storm shelters and resource centers, as they gather food and clothing, provide heat, light, phone chargers, meals and some respite from the damage and devastation. Hundreds of people each day are coming in through their doors to partake of the generosity and benevolence both from the community and from other faith communities as well. The Young Israel of Shomrei Emunah Greater Washington hosted a busload of people for Shabbos and is looking to do so again. The Young Israel of Flatbush offered to host members of Young Israel of North Woodmere for Shabbos as well. The leaders of these Young Israels have been inspiring and have moved many in the area to push forward and to do more for others even as they suffer their own losses.
At the moment it is still far from enough. With bad weather forecast for today and tomorrow we may be in for some additional flooding and damage.
The needs are massive. We are therefore asking you in your respective shul and community to hold Emergency appeal campaigns this Shabbos, November 10th, Parshas Chayei Sara, on behalf of the shuls and communities in the New York, New Jersey and Connecticut area that have been impacted by Sandy. There are many and their needs are growing. We are asking that you send donations to our 'Young Israel Hurricane Sandy Disaster Relief Fund' through our website (click here <
http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001kdAqQCnbhQtzxa9g86_BkGA8Nad08gr4zYnGSM7txKl5iaYn-N_t4IreM83u602n7NvC0CTk74ZnFxlzLpB4invtVu3xsXmGlG2OhaD7NCTNYhWydk0AvbX27gTpmMvrh2t8qJsTNxrc_xrZ0mMmnsOxdi8hl5HdN6AevubbNrfhD1I1PgFuCg
==> ). The funds will be distributed directly to shul leadership who have the best knowledge of the needs of their shuls and members.
One final note. This week's parsha, Chayei Sarah builds on the theme of last week, Hachnasat Orchim and Gemilut Chasadim, and tells the story of a young woman who provides water to an unknown and weary traveler, someone not of her land, language or location. It was an act of truly selfless loving kindness, one which is still inspiring us today. The people impacted by the hurricane are not 'Eliezers' but our family, friends and community. At this time we ask you to help us out and give generously.
Click here to donate <
http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001kdAqQCnbhQtzxa9g86_BkGA8Nad08gr4zYnGSM7txKl5iaYn-N_t4IreM83u602n7NvC0CTk74ZnFxlzLpB4invtVu3xsXmGlG2OhaD7NCTNYhWydk0AvbX27gTpmMvrh2t8qJsTNxrc_xrZ0mMmnsOxdi8hl5HdN6AevubbNrfhD1I1PgFuCg
==> .
Thank you in advance.
B'vracha and wishes for Besorot Tovot,
Bini Maryles
Associate Executive Director, Young Israel
Shalom and Best Regsrds,
RRW
*****
Our community has been hurt and very badly. You have certainly seen the news, videos on YouTube, Facebook and Twitter posts, heard the reports or spoken and been in touch with friends and relatives on the Northeast coast. Perhaps you are even hosting some family, friends or 'new' friends for a few days or a weekend as the community begins to cleanup and heal. The devastation both physically and emotionally is beyond words. The weather has quickly turned cold and the gas lines continue for hours on end. There are moments when it seems that the despair will not end. Individuals, families and communities alike have, in many cases, lost everything they had from clothing to homes to shuls.
Neighborhoods that have been the envy of our collective community have been shattered by Sandy. Some 20 feet from where I write this my neighbor is having the foundation of his home inspected and overhauled. There are no explanations.
Some of our fellow Young Israels took a beating. The Young Israel of Brighton Beach in Brooklyn suffered major water damage which resulted in an electrical fire knocking out their entire system for the foreseeable future. The Young Israel of Oceanside lost three sifrei Torah, thousands of seforim and all of their youth furniture and toys and sustained heavy damage to the main sanctuary. There are many more similar reports.
On the ground many wonderful and inspiring people and families have provided living space, clothing, food, water and gas for those who are in need. Many local organizations, including local Young Israels and not-so-local Young Israels have mobilized crews to cleanup or provide heat and generators for those who are in need. One set of examples is the Young Israels of Woodmere, Long Beach, Wavecrest & Bayswater, among many others in Brooklyn, Queens, Long Island, New Jersey and Connecticut that have been severely damaged by the storm that have nonetheless become storm shelters and resource centers, as they gather food and clothing, provide heat, light, phone chargers, meals and some respite from the damage and devastation. Hundreds of people each day are coming in through their doors to partake of the generosity and benevolence both from the community and from other faith communities as well. The Young Israel of Shomrei Emunah Greater Washington hosted a busload of people for Shabbos and is looking to do so again. The Young Israel of Flatbush offered to host members of Young Israel of North Woodmere for Shabbos as well. The leaders of these Young Israels have been inspiring and have moved many in the area to push forward and to do more for others even as they suffer their own losses.
At the moment it is still far from enough. With bad weather forecast for today and tomorrow we may be in for some additional flooding and damage.
The needs are massive. We are therefore asking you in your respective shul and community to hold Emergency appeal campaigns this Shabbos, November 10th, Parshas Chayei Sara, on behalf of the shuls and communities in the New York, New Jersey and Connecticut area that have been impacted by Sandy. There are many and their needs are growing. We are asking that you send donations to our 'Young Israel Hurricane Sandy Disaster Relief Fund' through our website (click here <
http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001kdAqQCnbhQtzxa9g86_BkGA8Nad08gr4zYnGSM7txKl5iaYn-N_t4IreM83u602n7NvC0CTk74ZnFxlzLpB4invtVu3xsXmGlG2OhaD7NCTNYhWydk0AvbX27gTpmMvrh2t8qJsTNxrc_xrZ0mMmnsOxdi8hl5HdN6AevubbNrfhD1I1PgFuCg
==> ). The funds will be distributed directly to shul leadership who have the best knowledge of the needs of their shuls and members.
One final note. This week's parsha, Chayei Sarah builds on the theme of last week, Hachnasat Orchim and Gemilut Chasadim, and tells the story of a young woman who provides water to an unknown and weary traveler, someone not of her land, language or location. It was an act of truly selfless loving kindness, one which is still inspiring us today. The people impacted by the hurricane are not 'Eliezers' but our family, friends and community. At this time we ask you to help us out and give generously.
Click here to donate <
http://r20.rs6.net/tn.jsp?e=001kdAqQCnbhQtzxa9g86_BkGA8Nad08gr4zYnGSM7txKl5iaYn-N_t4IreM83u602n7NvC0CTk74ZnFxlzLpB4invtVu3xsXmGlG2OhaD7NCTNYhWydk0AvbX27gTpmMvrh2t8qJsTNxrc_xrZ0mMmnsOxdi8hl5HdN6AevubbNrfhD1I1PgFuCg
==> .
Thank you in advance.
B'vracha and wishes for Besorot Tovot,
Bini Maryles
Associate Executive Director, Young Israel
Learning Questionaire
If you strongly Agree, assign a 10
If you strongly disagree assign a 0 etc.
EG I like learning first thing in the morning. 3
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1. Most of all, I like completing a sefer and making a siyyum
2. I like the Mitzvah of learning Lishmah. What I complete is not relevant; my goal is to spend as much time in learning as possible.
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3. I want to master a Given Torah Topic, EG Sefer Sh'muel or Hilchot Hanukkah. I want Expertise.
4. I want to be exposed to as much breadth of Torah as possible. Superficial is fine as long as I touch all the various aspects of Torah. I want an encyclopedic approach.
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5. I want to learn how to be independent. My goal is to master learning skills so as to to be able to learn as much as I can on my own
6. I like shiurim. I don't like reading on my own; I prefer listening to a Maggid Shiur digest the material on my behalf. I learn audibly.
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7. I want to build complex structures so that each session builds on what we just covered last time. I like continuity and long-term development.
8. I want every learning session to begin brand new. I don't want the stress of jogging my memory each time to recall what's been covered
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Hachanah vs. Hazarah
9 I love preparing
10 I love reviewing
11 I prefer to prepare w/o needing to review
12 I prefer to review w/o needing to prepare
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Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
If you strongly disagree assign a 0 etc.
EG I like learning first thing in the morning. 3
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1. Most of all, I like completing a sefer and making a siyyum
2. I like the Mitzvah of learning Lishmah. What I complete is not relevant; my goal is to spend as much time in learning as possible.
---
3. I want to master a Given Torah Topic, EG Sefer Sh'muel or Hilchot Hanukkah. I want Expertise.
4. I want to be exposed to as much breadth of Torah as possible. Superficial is fine as long as I touch all the various aspects of Torah. I want an encyclopedic approach.
---
5. I want to learn how to be independent. My goal is to master learning skills so as to to be able to learn as much as I can on my own
6. I like shiurim. I don't like reading on my own; I prefer listening to a Maggid Shiur digest the material on my behalf. I learn audibly.
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7. I want to build complex structures so that each session builds on what we just covered last time. I like continuity and long-term development.
8. I want every learning session to begin brand new. I don't want the stress of jogging my memory each time to recall what's been covered
---
Hachanah vs. Hazarah
9 I love preparing
10 I love reviewing
11 I prefer to prepare w/o needing to review
12 I prefer to review w/o needing to prepare
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Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Wednesday, 7 November 2012
How you can help Hurricane victims!
See http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/article.php?p=143733
For Canadians -
For Canadians -
A special Fund has been set up with Achiezer, a relief
organization in New York in conjunction with Agudas Israel of New York.
We are accepting donations here in Toronto on their behalf. ALL funds
we collect will go directly to these victims.
Tax deductible donations payable to "Beth Oloth" can be mailed to:
Moti Seidenfeld, 535 Glengrove Avenue, Toronto, Ontario M6B 2H3.
Tuesday, 6 November 2012
An Election Reflection
We Torah Jews are conditioned to ritualize our feelings. EG you want "Shalom" build a Sukkas Shalom! Etc.
As I see it in the USA, Voting is a ritual of Democracy. The results etc. matter less than the effort. The action of registering, voting, participating takes lofty ideals into the "olam ho'assiyah". I get a kick out of being able to vote and to exercise our freedom. And I feel a sense of obligation, too; an obligation to be part of the greater whole via tangible action.
So enjoy the victory - or agonize over the defeat - of your favorites; but always enjoy the chance to flex your "freedom" muscles in November.
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
As I see it in the USA, Voting is a ritual of Democracy. The results etc. matter less than the effort. The action of registering, voting, participating takes lofty ideals into the "olam ho'assiyah". I get a kick out of being able to vote and to exercise our freedom. And I feel a sense of obligation, too; an obligation to be part of the greater whole via tangible action.
So enjoy the victory - or agonize over the defeat - of your favorites; but always enjoy the chance to flex your "freedom" muscles in November.
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Appeal for Seagate
Courtesy of R Yehudah Oppenheimer -
Seagate, which is on a little peninsula near Coney Island in Brooklyn, was decimated. You can see the damage as described by long time resident, Mordechai Ben David, at
http://jewishmusicreport.com/2012/11/05/mbd-asks-for-your-help-to-rebuild-seagate/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=facebook
There is a link to donate at the bottom.
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Seagate, which is on a little peninsula near Coney Island in Brooklyn, was decimated. You can see the damage as described by long time resident, Mordechai Ben David, at
http://jewishmusicreport.com/2012/11/05/mbd-asks-for-your-help-to-rebuild-seagate/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=facebook
There is a link to donate at the bottom.
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Monday, 5 November 2012
Far Rockaway, Five Towns Relief Effort
Update on Relief Efforts
from
Rabbi Yehiel M. Kalish
National Director of Government Affairs
Agudath Israel of America
*****
Dear Rabbonim, Members of the Board of Trustees and Nationwide Contacts,
It is now 5:22am and I can't sleep. Last night working together with a team at Achiezer we heard just the most terrible stories, let me share a few very real emails with you:
"I need a place for a family with 6 kids desperately for 2/3 weeks." This family has no home left. It's gone.
"Thanks for the info. Unfortunately Judy's apartment was totally wiped out. Then her insurance claim was denied because renter's insurance doesn't cover flooding.
I don't know how insurance companies get away with that."
"My grandmother is lost. FEMA came to visit her, dropped off paperwork and left. What does she do now, her home was completely destroyed and she doesn't want to leave."
"If anyone has any way to contact folks in Far Rockaway, please contact me. We're trying to find my brother's in-laws. Nobody has been able to reach them since the storm hit." This was sent Friday; we found them cold, scared and unable to communicate with the outside world.
"1)My wife's Shaitel Parnassa was totally destroyed. 2)I have complete /extensive damage in my basement which also reached my 1st floor. 3)Lost a good percentage of my families Sha-bbos / summer clothing 4) lost 7 complete bookcases of my seforim. I was told that my policy does not insure most of the damage.
whatever the Rosh Hayeshiva can do will obviously be greatly appreciated.
Thank you."
"The number of "lives saved" today by Achiezer is unbelievable !!!! Yasher koach" This was sent the night of the storm.
So here is where we are with an update written by Boruch Ber Bender, Founder/President of Achiezer this morning, a few hours ago.
Food:
Due to the overwhelming requests received, we have now setup 2 food distribution centers for today.
For the Far Rockaway/Lawrence area there will be fresh meals at Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv, 1 Cedar Lawn Avenue.
There will also now be a Cedarhurst/Woodmere/Hewlett location at the Young Israel of Woodmere, 859 Peninsula Blvd.
Lunch and dinner will be served at both locations, with the meals starting at 12:30 PM. We will have staff on hand at both locations who will be able to answer any questions you may have with regards to any services that are needed. If anyone has any questions regarding our new Five Towns Storm location please call Meir Krengle at
(917) 873-1643 Or Michael Krengle at (516) 554-3118
Shaimos:
There will be a shaimos truck parked at Shor Yoshuv from 12-3 PM today. Any shaimos may be dropped off there free of charge. Additionally we have arranged a shaimos drop off point for the Cedarhurst/Woodmere/Hewlett area also at the Young Israel of Woodmere. There will be a designated spot at the shul for the drop off, and the materials will be picked up by our truck.
Clothing:
Dozens and dozens of brand new racks of clothing are now available to anyone across the community. They will be distributed with no questions asked, in a dignified manner. We are asking any volunteers that are able to assist with the setup of clothing to please report to Shor Yoshuv today at 10 AM. From 12-3 PM the clothing will be available to anyone who needs.
Laundry:
We have received many requests regarding the inability to wash fresh laundry due to the lack of electric.
Through the dedicated work of several individuals we have been able to work out a special service for members of Far Rockaway/ Bayswater, and the Five Towns.
There will be 3 drop off points today, and the laundry should be there by 1 PM. Each family may drop off 2 full bags of laundry (please close bags well) and we will have it returned within 24-36 hours.
Bayswater dropoff-Young Israel of Bayswater, 2716 Healy Avenue.
Far Rockaway/Lawrence drop off-Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv, 1 Cedar Lawn Avenue.
Cedarhurst/Woodmere/Hewlett dropoff-Young Israel of Woodmere, 859 Peninsula Blvd.
Special Relief Fund:
As many people know our community has launched an emergency relief fund for those who have been affected financially by Hurricane Sandy. 100% of the funds raised will go directly to members of our community who have been hurt. If anyone requires assistance or information about this fund, you may call our hotline, or email us at hurricanefund@achiezer.org
Cleaning/Pumping:
We will have several crews available today to help clean, shlep, and pump out water-filled basements. If you require such a service you may call our office hotline, or 347-752-1400.
You may also email alongoldberger@gmail.com .
If you are able to volunteer for any of these services we ask you to contact these numbers as well.
Shelter:
Numerous people from our community were graciously hosted over the weekend by members of our community, Queens, and Brooklyn.
If you are still in need of shelter/temporary place to stay please call our office, or email us at shelter@achiezer.org
and arrangements will be made.
FEMA:
We understand that there are an endless amount of questions and confusion regarding FEMA claims, insurance filings, and legal questions.
We are in the midst of creating a community task force that will exclusively deal with all of these issues. We are working to gather and make available as much information as possible, and hope to have this vital service available to the community by the beginning of the week.
Electric:
LIPA representatives have told us that the restoration is fully underway. We know that this information doesn't help for the many of you that are still in the dark, especially with the conflicting timetables constantly being heard. We will work extremely hard to forward as much concrete information that we can possibly find out. We strongly feel that as long as you are able to make living arrangements in areas that have electricity, it is safer for you to continue to do so until power is restored.
My dear friend reading this email, so you understand fully, THERE IS NO ELECTRIC in many areas. This has been the case since the storm hit last Monday. People have not had power to be able to clean up and now there is another storm threatening to bring a foot of snow this coming Wednesday.
To date the communities outside of New York have raised close to $100,000 in appeals. We need more. We need a lot more. We have raised over $1.2M here locally but we really need a lot more money to help people who are very, very desperate. The current state leaders are Maryland with $7000+ and Ohio who had a fund raiser last night that raised $25,000 plus online donations of $1200 and then Illinois with $5000. Please work with your community to raise necessary funds and send them to us.
If you will be having a communal meeting or live appeal Rabbi Yaakov Reisman, Rabbi Yaakov Bender, Rabbi Eytan Feiner, Rabbi H. Billet or other community Rabbonim will be happy to speak on the phone with any group or group leader and explain clearly the detailed need here in New York at this time and encourage them to give to this fund.
And if you want your donation/your shul donation to go to Sea Gate or the other areas outside of Bayswater/Far Rockaway/Five Towns, just let me know as we are all working together.
Checks can be made payable to either Achiezer, Davis Memorial Fund or The Five Towns Community Relief Fund. Each fund is working together and the distribution committee will be chaired by Elisha Brecher, Esq. a noted and respected askan with years of experience in these matters.
We are also in need of generators and RV's. If you know of anyone who can help with either, please let me know ASAP. This need is urgent, lives are at stake.
My cell number is 646-408-1013 if you have any questions or concerns.
Thank you,
Rabbi Yehiel M. Kalish
National Director of Government Affairs
Agudath Israel of America
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
from
Rabbi Yehiel M. Kalish
National Director of Government Affairs
Agudath Israel of America
*****
Dear Rabbonim, Members of the Board of Trustees and Nationwide Contacts,
It is now 5:22am and I can't sleep. Last night working together with a team at Achiezer we heard just the most terrible stories, let me share a few very real emails with you:
"I need a place for a family with 6 kids desperately for 2/3 weeks." This family has no home left. It's gone.
"Thanks for the info. Unfortunately Judy's apartment was totally wiped out. Then her insurance claim was denied because renter's insurance doesn't cover flooding.
I don't know how insurance companies get away with that."
"My grandmother is lost. FEMA came to visit her, dropped off paperwork and left. What does she do now, her home was completely destroyed and she doesn't want to leave."
"If anyone has any way to contact folks in Far Rockaway, please contact me. We're trying to find my brother's in-laws. Nobody has been able to reach them since the storm hit." This was sent Friday; we found them cold, scared and unable to communicate with the outside world.
"1)My wife's Shaitel Parnassa was totally destroyed. 2)I have complete /extensive damage in my basement which also reached my 1st floor. 3)Lost a good percentage of my families Sha-bbos / summer clothing 4) lost 7 complete bookcases of my seforim. I was told that my policy does not insure most of the damage.
whatever the Rosh Hayeshiva can do will obviously be greatly appreciated.
Thank you."
"The number of "lives saved" today by Achiezer is unbelievable !!!! Yasher koach" This was sent the night of the storm.
So here is where we are with an update written by Boruch Ber Bender, Founder/President of Achiezer this morning, a few hours ago.
Food:
Due to the overwhelming requests received, we have now setup 2 food distribution centers for today.
For the Far Rockaway/Lawrence area there will be fresh meals at Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv, 1 Cedar Lawn Avenue.
There will also now be a Cedarhurst/Woodmere/Hewlett location at the Young Israel of Woodmere, 859 Peninsula Blvd.
Lunch and dinner will be served at both locations, with the meals starting at 12:30 PM. We will have staff on hand at both locations who will be able to answer any questions you may have with regards to any services that are needed. If anyone has any questions regarding our new Five Towns Storm location please call Meir Krengle at
(917) 873-1643 Or Michael Krengle at (516) 554-3118
Shaimos:
There will be a shaimos truck parked at Shor Yoshuv from 12-3 PM today. Any shaimos may be dropped off there free of charge. Additionally we have arranged a shaimos drop off point for the Cedarhurst/Woodmere/Hewlett area also at the Young Israel of Woodmere. There will be a designated spot at the shul for the drop off, and the materials will be picked up by our truck.
Clothing:
Dozens and dozens of brand new racks of clothing are now available to anyone across the community. They will be distributed with no questions asked, in a dignified manner. We are asking any volunteers that are able to assist with the setup of clothing to please report to Shor Yoshuv today at 10 AM. From 12-3 PM the clothing will be available to anyone who needs.
Laundry:
We have received many requests regarding the inability to wash fresh laundry due to the lack of electric.
Through the dedicated work of several individuals we have been able to work out a special service for members of Far Rockaway/ Bayswater, and the Five Towns.
There will be 3 drop off points today, and the laundry should be there by 1 PM. Each family may drop off 2 full bags of laundry (please close bags well) and we will have it returned within 24-36 hours.
Bayswater dropoff-Young Israel of Bayswater, 2716 Healy Avenue.
Far Rockaway/Lawrence drop off-Yeshiva Shor Yoshuv, 1 Cedar Lawn Avenue.
Cedarhurst/Woodmere/Hewlett dropoff-Young Israel of Woodmere, 859 Peninsula Blvd.
Special Relief Fund:
As many people know our community has launched an emergency relief fund for those who have been affected financially by Hurricane Sandy. 100% of the funds raised will go directly to members of our community who have been hurt. If anyone requires assistance or information about this fund, you may call our hotline, or email us at hurricanefund@achiezer.org
Cleaning/Pumping:
We will have several crews available today to help clean, shlep, and pump out water-filled basements. If you require such a service you may call our office hotline, or 347-752-1400.
You may also email alongoldberger@gmail.com .
If you are able to volunteer for any of these services we ask you to contact these numbers as well.
Shelter:
Numerous people from our community were graciously hosted over the weekend by members of our community, Queens, and Brooklyn.
If you are still in need of shelter/temporary place to stay please call our office, or email us at shelter@achiezer.org
and arrangements will be made.
FEMA:
We understand that there are an endless amount of questions and confusion regarding FEMA claims, insurance filings, and legal questions.
We are in the midst of creating a community task force that will exclusively deal with all of these issues. We are working to gather and make available as much information as possible, and hope to have this vital service available to the community by the beginning of the week.
Electric:
LIPA representatives have told us that the restoration is fully underway. We know that this information doesn't help for the many of you that are still in the dark, especially with the conflicting timetables constantly being heard. We will work extremely hard to forward as much concrete information that we can possibly find out. We strongly feel that as long as you are able to make living arrangements in areas that have electricity, it is safer for you to continue to do so until power is restored.
My dear friend reading this email, so you understand fully, THERE IS NO ELECTRIC in many areas. This has been the case since the storm hit last Monday. People have not had power to be able to clean up and now there is another storm threatening to bring a foot of snow this coming Wednesday.
To date the communities outside of New York have raised close to $100,000 in appeals. We need more. We need a lot more. We have raised over $1.2M here locally but we really need a lot more money to help people who are very, very desperate. The current state leaders are Maryland with $7000+ and Ohio who had a fund raiser last night that raised $25,000 plus online donations of $1200 and then Illinois with $5000. Please work with your community to raise necessary funds and send them to us.
If you will be having a communal meeting or live appeal Rabbi Yaakov Reisman, Rabbi Yaakov Bender, Rabbi Eytan Feiner, Rabbi H. Billet or other community Rabbonim will be happy to speak on the phone with any group or group leader and explain clearly the detailed need here in New York at this time and encourage them to give to this fund.
And if you want your donation/your shul donation to go to Sea Gate or the other areas outside of Bayswater/Far Rockaway/Five Towns, just let me know as we are all working together.
Checks can be made payable to either Achiezer, Davis Memorial Fund or The Five Towns Community Relief Fund. Each fund is working together and the distribution committee will be chaired by Elisha Brecher, Esq. a noted and respected askan with years of experience in these matters.
We are also in need of generators and RV's. If you know of anyone who can help with either, please let me know ASAP. This need is urgent, lives are at stake.
My cell number is 646-408-1013 if you have any questions or concerns.
Thank you,
Rabbi Yehiel M. Kalish
National Director of Government Affairs
Agudath Israel of America
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Sunday, 4 November 2012
POST HURRICANE SANDY COPING
I'm passing this along... RRW
---------
Any occurrence that constitutes a significant break in routine coupled with a potential threat to life and limb can evoke traumatic reactions. We have previously communicated regarding the immediate stress and potential trauma of the hurricane itself. The following are suggestions of coping with the lingering impact and effects of this calamitous event.
*
THE LIKELIHOOD OF A TRAUMATIC OR DESTABILIZING REACTION ON YOUR PART AND THAT OF YOUR CHILDREN WILL PARTIALLY DEPEND ON THE EXTENT TO WHICH THERE HAD BEEN EXPOSURE TO INJURY AND PROPERTY DAMAGE.
*
PAST HISTORY OF TRAUMA, ESPECIALLY RECENT, CAN EXACERBATE THE EXISTENCE OF A STRESS REACTION EVEN IF THE PRIOR EVENT WAS UNRELATED AND DIFFERENT IN NATURE. FOR EXAMPLE, A CHILD WHO RECENTLY EXPERIENCED AN INJURY OR WITNESSED AN VEHICULAR ACCIDENT MAY COMBINE THESE TWO EVENTS AND EXACERBATE THE TRAUMA.
*
EVERYONE INHERENTLY DIFFERS IN THE EXTENT TO WHICH THEY RESPOND TO FRIGHTENING EVENTS AND THOSE WITH A PROCLIVITY TOWARDS ANXIETY AND FRIGHTFUL ANTICIPATION WILL PROBABLY RESPOND MORE PROFOUNDLY TO THESE RECENT DISRUPTIONS AND UPHEAVAL THAN SOMEONE ELSE WHO IS BY NATURE MORE CAVALIER OR DISTRACTED.
*
IT IS NOT UNCOMMON TO HAVE A DORMANT PERIOD BETWEEN THE EVENT AND TRAUMATIC REACTION. THIS IS PARTICULARLY THE CASE WHEN INDIVIDUALS ARE PREOCCUPIED WITH THE CALAMITY AND ITS AFTERMATH AND ONLY BECOME COGNIZANT OF ITS ENORMITY WHEN LIFE RETURNS TO NORMAL AND CALM IS RESTORED. PLEASE DO NOT BE SURPRISED IF YOU AND/OR YOUR CHILD EXPERIENCE TRAUMATIC RESPONSES WEEKS LATER EVEN LONG AFTER YOUR DAILY ROUTINE AND ABODE ARE SETTLED.
*
IT IS ESSENTIAL ESPECIALLY FOR CHILDREN AROUND SIX YEARS AND OLDER THAT ALL CHANGES IN THEIR SURROUNDINGS AND LIFESTYLE ARE ADEQUATELY EXPLAINED AND ANTICIPATED WHEN POSSIBLE. THE RARITY OF SUCH EVENTS SHOULD BE EMPHASIZED AS WELL.
*
CHILDREN UNDER SIX WILL PROBABLY BE MORE RESPONSIVE TO DIFFUSE DEMONSTRATIONS OF SAFETY AND SECURITY SUCH AS HOLDING, SOOTHING REMARKS AND CONCRETE EXPRESSIONS OF AFFECTION.
*
ONCE CALMED AND EVENTS ACCOUNTED FOR, PLEASE KEEP YOUR CHILDREN BUSY WITH RECREATION, EDUCATIONAL ACTIVITIES AND IF POSSIBLE SOCIALIZATION.
*
IF YOUR POWER IS STILL OUT, CONTINUE TO ASSURE YOUR CHILDREN OF THEIR SAFETY AND ITS ULTIMATE RESUMPTION. BE SURE THAT FORMS OF RECREATION, LEARNING AND OTHER CONSUMING ACTIVITIES ARE SUCH THAT CAN BE CONDUCTED WITHOUT ELECTRICITY.
*
IF CULTURALLY APPLICABLE, IT IS MOST DEFINITELY HELPFUL TO ACCOUNT FOR THESE EVENTS AND THEIR AFTERMATH IN A RELIGIOUS OR SPIRITUAL CONTEXT. PRAYER, TORAH STUDY AND GOOD DEEDS CAN BE AMONG THE ACTIVITIES THAT BOTH EMPOWER AND DISTRACT CHILDREN DURING THESE TIMES. IF HIGHLIGHTING G-D'S STRENGTH AND DOMINATION, BE CAREFUL TO SCULPT YOUR COMMENTS IN SUCH A WAY THAT HE IS NOT SEEN BY THE CHILD IN A DESTRUCTIVE OR CRUEL CONTEXT.
*
COMMON REACTIONS TO TRAUMA THAT CAN BE OBSERVED IMMEDIATELY OR AT A LATER JUNCTURE INCLUDE FLASHBACKS, STARTLE REACTIONS, AVOIDANCE OF REMINDERS, IRRITABILITY, SOMATIC COMPLAINTS, SLEEP DISTURBANCE, HOPELESSNESS, DESPAIR AND OTHER SIGNIFICANT CHANGES IN BEHAVIOR AND MOOD.
*
IF YOU SEE SUCH CHANGES IN YOUR CHILD, DO INDEED INQUIRE IF THE FRIGHTENING IMAGES AND OCCURRENCES DURING HURRICANE SANDY IS ON HIS OR HER MIND. IF YOU SEE NO SUCH RESPONSES, THERE IS NO NEED NOR IS IT RECOMMENDED TO BRING IT UP OR FISH FOR SUCH CONCERNS.
*
KEEP IN MIND THAT CHILDREN, PARTICULARLY YOUNGER, ARE PRONE TO BRING UP WORRIES AND CONCERNS AT THE MOST UNEXPECTED OR EVEN INOPPORTUNE TIMES. IF SUCH CONCERNS ARE SUGGESTIVE OF TRAUMA OR FRIGHTENING MISCONCEPTIONS TRY TO IMMEDIATELY RESPOND EVEN IF THE CONTEXT IS INCONVENIENT AND UNCONDUCIVE.
*
SCHOOL AGED CHILDREN (PARTICULARLY BOYS) MAY BE UNDULY INTERESTED IN THE DETAILS AND SCARY ACCOUNTS REVOLVING AROUND THIS CATASTROPHE. THIS IS NOT ATYPICAL FOR THIS AGE AND FACTS SHOULD BE SUCCINCTLY AND CLEARLY CONVEYED. THE RARE AND HAIR-RAISING STORIES SHOULD BE PLACED IN THE CONTEXT OF BOTH SORROW AND THEIR PRONOUNCED UNLIKELIHOOD TO RECUR. UNFOUNDED AND EXAGGERATED RUMORS OR DESCRIPTIONS SHOULD BE CATEGORICALLY AND BRIEFLY CORRECTED.
*
IF A CHILD IS PREOCCUPIED WITH SOME ASPECT OF THE PHYSICAL DESTRUCTION OF THEIR HOME OR NEIGHBORHOOD, IT MAY BE HELPFUL TO CONCRETELY SHOW THEM THE REPARATIVE ACTIVITIES AND ULTIMATE RESTORATION OF THE INTEGRITY OF THEIR HOME AND SURROUNDINGS.
*
THE PROLONGED ABSENCE OF ELECTRICAL POWER AND DARKNESS OF THE HOME CAN ALSO HAVE INSIDIOUSLY SLOW EFFECT OF INCREASED IRRITATION, IMPATIENCE AND PETULANCE. IF THIS IS DETECTED, IT MAY BE BEST TO TRY TO GET OUT OF THE HOME, VISIT OTHERS WITH NORMAL LIGHT AND APPLIANCES OR SOME WAY CREATE A BREAK OR EXCURSION FROM THE PERSISTENT DARKNESS AND INCONVENIENCES.
*
THERE ARE MANY EFFECTIVE TECHNIQUES TODAY TO ADDRESS POST TRAUMATIC REACTIONS. IF ANYONE IS DISPLAYING ONGOING DISRUPTIVE SYMPTOMS IN THE AFTERMATH OF THIS TRAUMA, THEY CAN BE ASSISTED PROFESSIONALLY AND SHOULD SEEK OUT AN APPROPRIATE REFERRAL.
*
CHAI LIFELINE AND MANY OF THE OTHER REPUTABLE AGENCIES AND ORGANIZATIONS IN OUR COMMUNITY ARE READILY AVAILABLE TO ASSIST AND ADVICE THOSE WHO HAVE ANY SUCH CONCERNS. PLEASE FEEL FREE TO AVAIL YOURSELF OF THIS HELP.
Dr. Norman N Blumenthal
Director Bereavement and Crisis Intervention Service
nblumenthal@chailifeline.org
Emergency: 646 763-0627
Rabbi Yaakov Dovid Klar, MSW
Director of Community Outreach
jklar@chailifeline.org
Emergency: 917 710-7857
Zahava Farbman, LMSW
Asssociate Director, Bereavement and Crisis Intervention Services
zfarbman@chailifeline.org
Emergency: 516 993-0430
Chai Lifeline, Project Chai
212 465-1300
212 699 - 6646
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
---------
Any occurrence that constitutes a significant break in routine coupled with a potential threat to life and limb can evoke traumatic reactions. We have previously communicated regarding the immediate stress and potential trauma of the hurricane itself. The following are suggestions of coping with the lingering impact and effects of this calamitous event.
*
THE LIKELIHOOD OF A TRAUMATIC OR DESTABILIZING REACTION ON YOUR PART AND THAT OF YOUR CHILDREN WILL PARTIALLY DEPEND ON THE EXTENT TO WHICH THERE HAD BEEN EXPOSURE TO INJURY AND PROPERTY DAMAGE.
*
PAST HISTORY OF TRAUMA, ESPECIALLY RECENT, CAN EXACERBATE THE EXISTENCE OF A STRESS REACTION EVEN IF THE PRIOR EVENT WAS UNRELATED AND DIFFERENT IN NATURE. FOR EXAMPLE, A CHILD WHO RECENTLY EXPERIENCED AN INJURY OR WITNESSED AN VEHICULAR ACCIDENT MAY COMBINE THESE TWO EVENTS AND EXACERBATE THE TRAUMA.
*
EVERYONE INHERENTLY DIFFERS IN THE EXTENT TO WHICH THEY RESPOND TO FRIGHTENING EVENTS AND THOSE WITH A PROCLIVITY TOWARDS ANXIETY AND FRIGHTFUL ANTICIPATION WILL PROBABLY RESPOND MORE PROFOUNDLY TO THESE RECENT DISRUPTIONS AND UPHEAVAL THAN SOMEONE ELSE WHO IS BY NATURE MORE CAVALIER OR DISTRACTED.
*
IT IS NOT UNCOMMON TO HAVE A DORMANT PERIOD BETWEEN THE EVENT AND TRAUMATIC REACTION. THIS IS PARTICULARLY THE CASE WHEN INDIVIDUALS ARE PREOCCUPIED WITH THE CALAMITY AND ITS AFTERMATH AND ONLY BECOME COGNIZANT OF ITS ENORMITY WHEN LIFE RETURNS TO NORMAL AND CALM IS RESTORED. PLEASE DO NOT BE SURPRISED IF YOU AND/OR YOUR CHILD EXPERIENCE TRAUMATIC RESPONSES WEEKS LATER EVEN LONG AFTER YOUR DAILY ROUTINE AND ABODE ARE SETTLED.
*
IT IS ESSENTIAL ESPECIALLY FOR CHILDREN AROUND SIX YEARS AND OLDER THAT ALL CHANGES IN THEIR SURROUNDINGS AND LIFESTYLE ARE ADEQUATELY EXPLAINED AND ANTICIPATED WHEN POSSIBLE. THE RARITY OF SUCH EVENTS SHOULD BE EMPHASIZED AS WELL.
*
CHILDREN UNDER SIX WILL PROBABLY BE MORE RESPONSIVE TO DIFFUSE DEMONSTRATIONS OF SAFETY AND SECURITY SUCH AS HOLDING, SOOTHING REMARKS AND CONCRETE EXPRESSIONS OF AFFECTION.
*
ONCE CALMED AND EVENTS ACCOUNTED FOR, PLEASE KEEP YOUR CHILDREN BUSY WITH RECREATION, EDUCATIONAL ACTIVITIES AND IF POSSIBLE SOCIALIZATION.
*
IF YOUR POWER IS STILL OUT, CONTINUE TO ASSURE YOUR CHILDREN OF THEIR SAFETY AND ITS ULTIMATE RESUMPTION. BE SURE THAT FORMS OF RECREATION, LEARNING AND OTHER CONSUMING ACTIVITIES ARE SUCH THAT CAN BE CONDUCTED WITHOUT ELECTRICITY.
*
IF CULTURALLY APPLICABLE, IT IS MOST DEFINITELY HELPFUL TO ACCOUNT FOR THESE EVENTS AND THEIR AFTERMATH IN A RELIGIOUS OR SPIRITUAL CONTEXT. PRAYER, TORAH STUDY AND GOOD DEEDS CAN BE AMONG THE ACTIVITIES THAT BOTH EMPOWER AND DISTRACT CHILDREN DURING THESE TIMES. IF HIGHLIGHTING G-D'S STRENGTH AND DOMINATION, BE CAREFUL TO SCULPT YOUR COMMENTS IN SUCH A WAY THAT HE IS NOT SEEN BY THE CHILD IN A DESTRUCTIVE OR CRUEL CONTEXT.
*
COMMON REACTIONS TO TRAUMA THAT CAN BE OBSERVED IMMEDIATELY OR AT A LATER JUNCTURE INCLUDE FLASHBACKS, STARTLE REACTIONS, AVOIDANCE OF REMINDERS, IRRITABILITY, SOMATIC COMPLAINTS, SLEEP DISTURBANCE, HOPELESSNESS, DESPAIR AND OTHER SIGNIFICANT CHANGES IN BEHAVIOR AND MOOD.
*
IF YOU SEE SUCH CHANGES IN YOUR CHILD, DO INDEED INQUIRE IF THE FRIGHTENING IMAGES AND OCCURRENCES DURING HURRICANE SANDY IS ON HIS OR HER MIND. IF YOU SEE NO SUCH RESPONSES, THERE IS NO NEED NOR IS IT RECOMMENDED TO BRING IT UP OR FISH FOR SUCH CONCERNS.
*
KEEP IN MIND THAT CHILDREN, PARTICULARLY YOUNGER, ARE PRONE TO BRING UP WORRIES AND CONCERNS AT THE MOST UNEXPECTED OR EVEN INOPPORTUNE TIMES. IF SUCH CONCERNS ARE SUGGESTIVE OF TRAUMA OR FRIGHTENING MISCONCEPTIONS TRY TO IMMEDIATELY RESPOND EVEN IF THE CONTEXT IS INCONVENIENT AND UNCONDUCIVE.
*
SCHOOL AGED CHILDREN (PARTICULARLY BOYS) MAY BE UNDULY INTERESTED IN THE DETAILS AND SCARY ACCOUNTS REVOLVING AROUND THIS CATASTROPHE. THIS IS NOT ATYPICAL FOR THIS AGE AND FACTS SHOULD BE SUCCINCTLY AND CLEARLY CONVEYED. THE RARE AND HAIR-RAISING STORIES SHOULD BE PLACED IN THE CONTEXT OF BOTH SORROW AND THEIR PRONOUNCED UNLIKELIHOOD TO RECUR. UNFOUNDED AND EXAGGERATED RUMORS OR DESCRIPTIONS SHOULD BE CATEGORICALLY AND BRIEFLY CORRECTED.
*
IF A CHILD IS PREOCCUPIED WITH SOME ASPECT OF THE PHYSICAL DESTRUCTION OF THEIR HOME OR NEIGHBORHOOD, IT MAY BE HELPFUL TO CONCRETELY SHOW THEM THE REPARATIVE ACTIVITIES AND ULTIMATE RESTORATION OF THE INTEGRITY OF THEIR HOME AND SURROUNDINGS.
*
THE PROLONGED ABSENCE OF ELECTRICAL POWER AND DARKNESS OF THE HOME CAN ALSO HAVE INSIDIOUSLY SLOW EFFECT OF INCREASED IRRITATION, IMPATIENCE AND PETULANCE. IF THIS IS DETECTED, IT MAY BE BEST TO TRY TO GET OUT OF THE HOME, VISIT OTHERS WITH NORMAL LIGHT AND APPLIANCES OR SOME WAY CREATE A BREAK OR EXCURSION FROM THE PERSISTENT DARKNESS AND INCONVENIENCES.
*
THERE ARE MANY EFFECTIVE TECHNIQUES TODAY TO ADDRESS POST TRAUMATIC REACTIONS. IF ANYONE IS DISPLAYING ONGOING DISRUPTIVE SYMPTOMS IN THE AFTERMATH OF THIS TRAUMA, THEY CAN BE ASSISTED PROFESSIONALLY AND SHOULD SEEK OUT AN APPROPRIATE REFERRAL.
*
CHAI LIFELINE AND MANY OF THE OTHER REPUTABLE AGENCIES AND ORGANIZATIONS IN OUR COMMUNITY ARE READILY AVAILABLE TO ASSIST AND ADVICE THOSE WHO HAVE ANY SUCH CONCERNS. PLEASE FEEL FREE TO AVAIL YOURSELF OF THIS HELP.
Dr. Norman N Blumenthal
Director Bereavement and Crisis Intervention Service
nblumenthal@chailifeline.org
Emergency: 646 763-0627
Rabbi Yaakov Dovid Klar, MSW
Director of Community Outreach
jklar@chailifeline.org
Emergency: 917 710-7857
Zahava Farbman, LMSW
Asssociate Director, Bereavement and Crisis Intervention Services
zfarbman@chailifeline.org
Emergency: 516 993-0430
Chai Lifeline, Project Chai
212 465-1300
212 699 - 6646
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Saturday, 3 November 2012
Mussar: Mitzvah Lishmah and Kiddush Hashem
*******************************
Hilchot Yesodei HaTorah, chapter 5, end of paragraph 10:
Whoever refrains from a sin, or does a mitzvah, not for any worldly reason, [for example]:
fear or seeking honor, but only because the Creator. Blessed Be He commanded it, as exemplified by the righteous Yosef who restrained himself from the wife. of Potifar, that person sanctifies the Name [of G_d].
CHRONOLOGY:
Rambam was born in 1134 CE in Cordoba, Spain. and died in 1204 CE in Egypt.
*******************************
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Hilchot Yesodei HaTorah, chapter 5, end of paragraph 10:
Whoever refrains from a sin, or does a mitzvah, not for any worldly reason, [for example]:
fear or seeking honor, but only because the Creator. Blessed Be He commanded it, as exemplified by the righteous Yosef who restrained himself from the wife. of Potifar, that person sanctifies the Name [of G_d].
CHRONOLOGY:
Rambam was born in 1134 CE in Cordoba, Spain. and died in 1204 CE in Egypt.
*******************************
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Friday, 2 November 2012
Huffington Post: Does Marriage Still Benefit Society?
In my latest
blog on Huffington Post-Canada, I maintain that the modern issue of same-sex marriage goes beyond this particular matter but rather reflects the greater need for secular society to examine its perspective on the concept of marriage in general.
Please see
http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/rabbi-ben-hecht/gay-marriage_b_2042573.html
Please feel free to comment there or here.
Rabbi Ben Hecht
Please see
http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/rabbi-ben-hecht/gay-marriage_b_2042573.html
Please feel free to comment there or here.
Rabbi Ben Hecht
Thursday, 1 November 2012
Jewish Tribune: A Child and Decision to Convert (4)
There was a case recently, in England, which was reported as allowing
a Jewish ten-year-old girl to convert to Christianity. That was not the
actual decision, though. What the case still revealed, however, were
not adversities for us from the outside world but, rather, problems and
weaknesses in our modern understandings of Jewishness.
In a series of articles in the Jewish Tribune, I further investigate this. For the fourth in the series, please see
http://www.jewishtribune.ca/religion/2012/10/29/a-child-and-decision-to-convert-4
Rabbi Ben Hecht
In a series of articles in the Jewish Tribune, I further investigate this. For the fourth in the series, please see
http://www.jewishtribune.ca/religion/2012/10/29/a-child-and-decision-to-convert-4
Rabbi Ben Hecht
Wednesday, 31 October 2012
Hurricane Sandy, 3 Communities, 3 Reactions
I found this so cute and part of our "Divine Comedy"
Due to the impending Storm Sandy -
1. Breuer's immediately cancelled its reception for Rav Gelley Sh'lita
2. Breslover adamantly stuck to its plans for a gala siyyum
3. Cong. Mt. Sinai in Wash Heights and Cong. Beth Aaron in Teaneck too a "wait and see" attitude.
I found this so "stereotypical" and it brought a big smile to my face.
Stay safe!
Shalom and Best Regsrds,
RRW
Due to the impending Storm Sandy -
1. Breuer's immediately cancelled its reception for Rav Gelley Sh'lita
2. Breslover adamantly stuck to its plans for a gala siyyum
3. Cong. Mt. Sinai in Wash Heights and Cong. Beth Aaron in Teaneck too a "wait and see" attitude.
I found this so "stereotypical" and it brought a big smile to my face.
Stay safe!
Shalom and Best Regsrds,
RRW
Tuesday, 30 October 2012
"To Bigotry No Sanction..."
I'm very Impressed.
So far, no one in Bergen County has made any disparaging remarks to me about the President's Race. It seems that we've grown past racial bigotry
Yet, oddly enough, I've heard many reservations about the Mormon [LDS] religion. Have we gotten past religious bigotry yet - at least here in Bergen County?
Shalom and Best Regsrds,
RRW
So far, no one in Bergen County has made any disparaging remarks to me about the President's Race. It seems that we've grown past racial bigotry
Yet, oddly enough, I've heard many reservations about the Mormon [LDS] religion. Have we gotten past religious bigotry yet - at least here in Bergen County?
Shalom and Best Regsrds,
RRW
Should Rabbis Engage in Partisan Politics
«Given this background, and given the close presidential campaign, one might think that I would jump at the chance to sway the election by signing up with one of the competing lists of rabbis supporting President Obama or Governor Romney ... But instead, I find the entire enterprise unsettling.»
This Rabbi Is Against Rabbis for Obama/Romney - The Huffington Post
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/rabbi-david-wolkenfeld/rabbi-against-rabbis-for-obama-romney_b_1974431.html?utm_hp_ref=elections-2012
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My take is simple. Rabbis in pulpits should stay clear of partisanship.
Since I no longer have a pulpit and effectively I only "dabble, I don't feel constrained to avoid partisanship
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Monday, 29 October 2012
R Broyde on Prayer Direction
«Direction in Prayer-----------------
A. The Two Talmudic Sources
The Talmud discusses the issue of direction in prayer in two different places—Berakhot and Bava Batra. The two sugyot take different forms—a Beraita about the direction of prayer and a series of Amoraitic statements about the presence of God—and come to seemingly divergent conclusions as to the direction one ought to face while praying.
In Berakhot 30a the Talmud states that one should pray facing Israel and the Beit ha-Mikdash:...
Yet, in a series of Amoraic statements, the Talmud in Bava Batra 25a-b seemingly contradicts the aforementioned Beraita.»
Orientation During Prayer | Hirhurim – Torah Musings
http://torahmusings.com/2012/10/orientation-during-prayer/
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Sunday, 28 October 2012
How To Get Free Movies Online - Legally
Hoepfully this will show us How To Get Free Movies Online - Legally AND ethically!
http://askbobrankin.com/how_to_get_free_movies_online_legally.html?awt_l=9ihAp&awt_m=K5bkZBk3y8P6SL
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
http://askbobrankin.com/how_to_get_free_movies_online_legally.html?awt_l=9ihAp&awt_m=K5bkZBk3y8P6SL
Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
P. Lech Lecha - Guarantees
Guest Blogger R Joe Potasnik, EVP of the NY Board of Rabbis
*****
Parsha Thought...
Sometimes when I officiate at a wedding, a couple will ask, "Rabbi, do you guarantee this marriage?" My response is always the same. "I will guarantee it for the duration of the ceremony." Obviously life does not come with iron-clad guarantees.
Perhaps this week's parsha Lech Lecha reminds us that we cannot succeed unless we are willing to take necessary risks. When we select a college, we are not certain we have picked the right place until after we are there. When we choose a profession, we do not know that we will enjoy it until we are in it. When we pick a life partner we cannot receive any assurance the relationship will last a lifetime.
Our past president and colleague Rabbi Charles Klein, reminded me that the Almighty took a chance when creating the world since God's inner cabinet of angels advised that humans had potential to be destructive. Rabbi Saul Teplitz in his popular book, Life is for the Living, writes about Rafael Solaro who was discouraged in his attempt to find any precious stones. Rafael and his two companions spent months prospecting for diamonds in a Venezuelan water course in 1942. As he was about to abandon the project, one of the seekers suggested that he pick one more which would be the millionth pebble. Solaro listened and pulled one out of a pile that was the size of a hen's egg. For that millionth pebble New York jeweler Harry Winston paid him $200,000 - a record amount during that period.
Thus Abraham took a chance by embarking on a difficult journey. It may be the reason we as a people are here today.
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Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
*****
Parsha Thought...
Sometimes when I officiate at a wedding, a couple will ask, "Rabbi, do you guarantee this marriage?" My response is always the same. "I will guarantee it for the duration of the ceremony." Obviously life does not come with iron-clad guarantees.
Perhaps this week's parsha Lech Lecha reminds us that we cannot succeed unless we are willing to take necessary risks. When we select a college, we are not certain we have picked the right place until after we are there. When we choose a profession, we do not know that we will enjoy it until we are in it. When we pick a life partner we cannot receive any assurance the relationship will last a lifetime.
Our past president and colleague Rabbi Charles Klein, reminded me that the Almighty took a chance when creating the world since God's inner cabinet of angels advised that humans had potential to be destructive. Rabbi Saul Teplitz in his popular book, Life is for the Living, writes about Rafael Solaro who was discouraged in his attempt to find any precious stones. Rafael and his two companions spent months prospecting for diamonds in a Venezuelan water course in 1942. As he was about to abandon the project, one of the seekers suggested that he pick one more which would be the millionth pebble. Solaro listened and pulled one out of a pile that was the size of a hen's egg. For that millionth pebble New York jeweler Harry Winston paid him $200,000 - a record amount during that period.
Thus Abraham took a chance by embarking on a difficult journey. It may be the reason we as a people are here today.
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Shalom and Best Regards,
RRW
Saturday, 27 October 2012
Mussar: Today I Can!
From Derech Emet Group
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TODAY I CAN by Ralph Holt
What kind of day shall I choose today?
Today I can complain about my health,
Or I can celebrate being alive.
Today I can moan that it is raining,
Or be joyful at all that grows from the rain.
Today I can regret all I do not have,
Or rejoice in everything I do.
Today I can mourn everything I have lost,
Or eagerly anticipate what is to come.
Today I can complain that I have to work,
Or celebrate having a job to go to.
Today I can resent the mess the kids make,
Or give thanks that I have a family.
Today I can whine about the housework,
Or celebrate having a home.
Today I can cry over the people who do not care for me,
Or be happy loving and being loved by those who do.
I choose to have a good day today!!!
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Choose Tov
Choose Chaim
Choose to make Today the Best Day!
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
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TODAY I CAN by Ralph Holt
What kind of day shall I choose today?
Today I can complain about my health,
Or I can celebrate being alive.
Today I can moan that it is raining,
Or be joyful at all that grows from the rain.
Today I can regret all I do not have,
Or rejoice in everything I do.
Today I can mourn everything I have lost,
Or eagerly anticipate what is to come.
Today I can complain that I have to work,
Or celebrate having a job to go to.
Today I can resent the mess the kids make,
Or give thanks that I have a family.
Today I can whine about the housework,
Or celebrate having a home.
Today I can cry over the people who do not care for me,
Or be happy loving and being loved by those who do.
I choose to have a good day today!!!
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Choose Tov
Choose Chaim
Choose to make Today the Best Day!
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Friday, 26 October 2012
Conservatives Walking Intermarriage Tightrope
«In two new books and a poll, the middle movement struggles to find balance on thorny issue.....
It's long been a truism that, of the major streams of American Judaism, the Conservative movement is the one with the largest gap between bima and pew.»
The Jewish Week | Connecting the World to Jewish News, Culture, and Opinion
http://www.thejewishweek.com/news/new-york-news/conservatives-walking-intermarriage-tightrope
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Thursday, 25 October 2012
Jewish Tribune: A Child and Decision to Convert (3)
There was a case recently, in England, which was reported as allowing
a Jewish ten-year-old girl to convert to Christianity. That was not the
actual decision, though. What the case still revealed, however, were
not adversities for us from the outside world but, rather, problems and
weaknesses in our modern understandings of Jewishness.
In a series of articles in the Jewish Tribune, I further investigate this. For the third in the series, please see
http://www.jewishtribune.ca/commentary/2012/10/23/a-child-and-decision-to-convert-3
Rabbi Ben Hecht
In a series of articles in the Jewish Tribune, I further investigate this. For the third in the series, please see
http://www.jewishtribune.ca/commentary/2012/10/23/a-child-and-decision-to-convert-3
Rabbi Ben Hecht
Wednesday, 24 October 2012
Bring Alan Gross Home!
«Alan Gross has already spent over 1,000 days in prison and is approaching his third year of unjust incarceration in Cuba. Since being detained, Alan has suffered immensely. He has lost 105 pounds, has degenerative arthritis, and has a concerned mass behind his right shoulder. In addition, both his mother and daughter were diagnosed with cancer.
Judy Gross, Alan's wife, is requesting that members of the rabbinical community sign a letter to President Raul Castro (provided beneath Judy's letter) urging his immediate release on humanitarian grounds, or at a minimum, to permit him to receive an independent medical assessment, by a doctor of his own choosing.»
See
Bring Alan Home - Home Page
http://www.bringalanhome.org/
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Tuesday, 23 October 2012
Rabbi Michael Broyde on Women’s Only Torah Reading
«My own view is that a women's Torah reading on Simchat Torah (without brachot), like women's tefillah groups generally, are unwise and halachically improper, although not a technical violation of halacha. I have two reasons for this position – the first is a halachic approach and the second a sociological one grounded in halachic values.
....
As to the substance of my view: I favor increasing women's participation in Orthodox life and in the synagogue through increased participation in Torah study and other mitzvah-centered activity. As a general rule, I believe that women should be supported and encouraged to do genuine mitzvot, and not directed to activity that only has the superficial appearance of a mitzvah. The halachic defense of women's torah reading (without brachot) is exactly that it is not a proper Torah reading at all (because no minyan is present, women are reading, etc.), and thus I think it an unwise idea because it focuses women away from the central purpose of religious conduct – the performance of mitzvot. Although I do not feel such conduct is assur in the technical sense of the word, I think it is imprudent and unwise, since it is conducted in a way that is designed to mimic the mitzvah of Torah reading in the synagogue, without fulfilling that obligation at all.[2] Women are better served as a matter of halacha attending a regular Torah reading and not merely mimicking a mitzvah.»
Women's Only Torah Reading | Hirhurim – Torah Musings
http://torahmusings.com/2012/10/women%E2%80%99s-only-torah-reading/
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Monday, 22 October 2012
To Boycott or Not to Boycott? - Jewish Leaders Weigh Response to Protestant Letter on Israel
"Liberal Protestants live side by side with Jews, and rabbis have relationships with local ministers," Marans said. "Once the antipathy toward Israel of some national leaders is communicated in the context of these relationships, the local religious leadership is heard from and communicates to their national leadership their concerns...."Incensed Jewish groups weigh response to Protestant letter on Israel | The Times of Israel
http://www.timesofisrael.com/incensed-jewish-groups-weigh-response-to-protestant-letter-on-israel/
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Sunday, 21 October 2012
Is Obama a Modern Nimrod?
See:
http://torahtalk.wordpress.com/2009/10/22/noach-genesis-69-1132-nimro-bama-dialogues/
Comment -
Note that this was written in 2009. How prescient was it?
I'm not sure how far to carry this analogy. It does seem fair that Obama is a "centralizer" eager to collect more power in Washington at the expense of private enterprize and local government, and also more power to the UN at the expense of Washington.
Regardless of the degree of this analogy, it seems wise to be vigilant with regard to those who save us from ourselves at the expense of our freedom. See EG Erich Fromm's "Escape from Freedom"
Also note, while the post itself is slanted against Obama, the comments section has sufficient rebuttal to allow this to comply with "equal time".
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
http://torahtalk.wordpress.com/2009/10/22/noach-genesis-69-1132-nimro-bama-dialogues/
Comment -
Note that this was written in 2009. How prescient was it?
I'm not sure how far to carry this analogy. It does seem fair that Obama is a "centralizer" eager to collect more power in Washington at the expense of private enterprize and local government, and also more power to the UN at the expense of Washington.
Regardless of the degree of this analogy, it seems wise to be vigilant with regard to those who save us from ourselves at the expense of our freedom. See EG Erich Fromm's "Escape from Freedom"
Also note, while the post itself is slanted against Obama, the comments section has sufficient rebuttal to allow this to comply with "equal time".
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Saturday, 20 October 2012
Mussar: 10 Steps to Greatness
From Derech Emet Group:
10 Steps To Greatness by Rabbi Avigdor Miller
(Orthodox, born 1908, died 2001) from tape # 706
Do the following once a day
(if this is too much, maybe do one a day):
1. Spend 30 seconds thinking about Olam HaBa.
2. Say once privately: I LOVE YOU HASHEM!
3. Do one hidden or anonymous act of kindness.
4. Be like HaShem who lifts the humble;
say something to encourage someone.
5. Spend 1 minute about what happened yesterday
(Cheshbon HaNefesh).
6. Make all your actions should be LeShem Shamayim;
(say once during meals that you eat LeShem Shamayim.
7. Look at the face [of a righteous Jew] and think:
I see the Image of G_d (tzelem Elokim).
8. Give someone a big or full smile.
9. Appreciate your clothing for 30 seconds.
10. Sit briefly on floor and mourn the
Churban Beit HaMikdash.
He recommended doing the above exercises for thirty days.
"If you feel exhausted, take a break and come back slowly.
To become great, you have to be extreme."
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
10 Steps To Greatness by Rabbi Avigdor Miller
(Orthodox, born 1908, died 2001) from tape # 706
Do the following once a day
(if this is too much, maybe do one a day):
1. Spend 30 seconds thinking about Olam HaBa.
2. Say once privately: I LOVE YOU HASHEM!
3. Do one hidden or anonymous act of kindness.
4. Be like HaShem who lifts the humble;
say something to encourage someone.
5. Spend 1 minute about what happened yesterday
(Cheshbon HaNefesh).
6. Make all your actions should be LeShem Shamayim;
(say once during meals that you eat LeShem Shamayim.
7. Look at the face [of a righteous Jew] and think:
I see the Image of G_d (tzelem Elokim).
8. Give someone a big or full smile.
9. Appreciate your clothing for 30 seconds.
10. Sit briefly on floor and mourn the
Churban Beit HaMikdash.
He recommended doing the above exercises for thirty days.
"If you feel exhausted, take a break and come back slowly.
To become great, you have to be extreme."
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Friday, 19 October 2012
The Resurgence of the Sabbath - A Dialogue between Rabbi and Minister
«...An insistence on creating sacred time and space is one of the key components of nearly all faiths. Traditional Jews and many Christian denominations observe one day a week of sanctified rest. Muslims around the world pause five times a day to bow in prayer. Many religions derived from Eastern traditions include a daily meditative practice. While many Americans feel distant from religion, establishing fixed times for personal renewal has universal appeal...»
A Rabbi and A Minister Talk About a Resurgence of the Sabbath – Tablet Magazine
http://www.tabletmag.com/scroll/113971/faith-and-observance-for-millenials?utm_source=tabletmagazinelist&utm_campaign=ace59ce299-Monday_October_15_201210_15_2012&utm_medium=email
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Thursday, 18 October 2012
Jewish Tribune: A Child and Decision to Convert (2)
There was a case recently, in England, which was reported as allowing
a Jewish ten-year-old girl to convert to Christianity. That was not the
actual decision, though. What the case still revealed, however, were
not adversities for us from the outside world but, rather, problems and
weaknesses in our modern understandings of Jewishness.
In a series of articles in the Jewish Tribune, I further investigate this. For the second in the series, please see
http://www.jewishtribune.ca/religion/2012/10/16/a-child-and-decision-to-convert-2
Rabbi Ben Hecht
In a series of articles in the Jewish Tribune, I further investigate this. For the second in the series, please see
http://www.jewishtribune.ca/religion/2012/10/16/a-child-and-decision-to-convert-2
Rabbi Ben Hecht
Wednesday, 17 October 2012
A Hashkafic Statement and Campaign Request
“And
why was it that the law was established like Beit Hillel?
...they studied their words and also the
words of Beit Shammai
and, even more so, always presented the
words of Beit Shammai first.”
T.B. Eruvin 13b
Dear Friend:
Most of us have heard this famous statement
from the gemara at some point but how many of us have really considered its
profound implications?
Beit Hillel and Beit Shammai were each
adamantly committed to the Halacha as they understood it. Yet, Beit Hillel made
a point of ensuring that the view of Beit Shammai – the view with which they
fully disagreed – was still articulated, studied, even presented first.
Imagine how fundamentally this policy must
have underlined and influenced Beit Hillel’s entire world view? Now, go one
step further -- imagine how different the world would be today if we all
followed Beit Hillel’s example!
Every day we are confronted --
individually, communally and nationally -- with a multitude of important
questions. Israel, women in Judaism, the influence of secular culture – these
are just some of the serious issues facing today’s Jew committed to living a
life rich in Torah insight. How different would the language of debate and
discussion be if each of us respectfully presented the opposing view? Not only
would this encourage greater harmony within the Torah world but it is only by
considering every Halachic opinion that we are able to immerse ourselves in the
full Wisdom of the Divine.
This is no easy utopia to achieve. Learning
how to truly think from a different perspective is a strenuous intellectual and
moral challenge. However, as Jews, this challenge is our inheritance and, most
importantly, our duty. Nishma’s objective is to further this ideal. Nishma
offers education and guidance to Jews across the world with the goal of
developing a community seeped in this value of Beit Hillel. Our numerous
articles and extensive on-line library of classes delve into the important
issues of our day with in-depth analysis that incorporates and promotes our core
principle: Eilu v’Eilu Divrei Elokim Chaim.
At Nishma, we firmly believe that true love
of Torah comes after struggling with the vastness found in the spectrum of
ideas inherent in Judaism - not because we are to be any less steadfast in our
positions but because we recognize that this is the Divine Will.
Please join us in this vision by generously
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With Torah blessings for the New Year,
Rabbi Benjamin Hecht
Founding Director
Founding Director
Tuesday, 16 October 2012
Reclaiming Religious Liberty - the Most Cherished American Freedom
Guest Blogger: Rabbi Philip Lefkowitz
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"Reclaiming Religious Liberty the Most Cherished American Freedom"
An address by Rabbi Philip Lefkowitz,
Spiritual Leader of Agudas Achim North Shore Congregation & founding Chairman of the Legislative Commission of the Chicago Rabbinical Council
Delivered at Halas Hall, Lake Forest, Illinois, October 14, 2012
The First Amendment to our Constitution, in a heretofore-unprecedented statement, restricts the government from placing limits upon any religious practice or establishing a specific religion. Yet, in his farewell address to the nation, Pres. George Washington advises:
"Of all the dispositions and habits, which lead to political prosperity, Religion and Morality are indispensable supports." He continues "… And let us with caution indulge the supposition, that morality can be maintained without religion. Whatever may be conceded to the influence of refined education on minds of peculiar structure, reason and experience both forbid us to expect, that national morality can prevail in exclusion of religious principle."
Considering the revolutionary period, it is a bit odd that George Washington, the gentleman from Virginia, the General who led our forces to victory, who occupied the famed chair of the rising sun during the deliberations of the Continental Congress, as Benjamin Franklin noted, symbolic of the very birth of our nation, presents us with the seeming paradox of our country's unique principle foundation. While stressing the pivotal importance of religion in determining morality, he, as our other founding fathers, elected to create a society in which the government and the church are separate with the law protecting the church or more appropriately, the free expression of all religious denominations, from any interference by the government.
How did Washington understand this unique approach was to function? If religion is indispensable, how was it to affect our society, and the manner in which we govern ourselves?
May I suggest that it was understood by our first President, and indeed by all our founding fathers, that the principles by which our society would function both in terms of the daily interpersonal relationships of its citizens and the enactment of law by its government, would be based upon what we commonly refer to as the Judeo-Christian ethic, the shared moral values of Judaism and Christianity.
It is for us then to determine what exactly this cornerstone of society, this Judeo-Christian ethic actually means. May I, as a Rabbi, offer some understanding of it in terms of my Jewish tradition.
Unlike Christianity, which seeks its moral and ethical guidance through the concept of agape, love, as evidenced by G-d to man, and as expressed in the life of Jesus of Nazareth, Judaism sees its morality in the law. The first five books of the Old Testament contain 613 specific G-d ordained commandments. Expressed both in the positive and the negative, they constitute the rules and regulations by which a society must function and, in turn, its morality. Indeed they encompass the entire spectrum of human endeavor. In administering these laws, this Jewish morality, our judges, our rabbis, are instructed that, in situations where a specific law is not clearly found, they must go beyond the letter of the law, "doing what is right in the eyes of the L-rd" Deuteronomy 13:18, extrapolating from the law the moral direction required to deal with the situation placed before them. It is these laws, the laws found in the first five books of the Old Testament, the Torah, to which our founding fathers referred when developing our Constitution.
To highlight this point – It is clear from the Torah that, in administering justice, the individual whose actions are to be judged is considered innocent until proven guilty. It is the task of the prosecutor to bring forward the evidence necessary to convict the individual. One can postulate that this principle is premised upon the fact that G-d is our Creator and therefore our true judge, and only out of necessity is man allowed to stand in judgment over his fellow.
Considering the basis of British Common law, the law that was in force in the colonies prior to the Revolution, this foundational principle of American jurisprudence is a major departure. Rooted in the Divine right of kings to rule over their subjects, British law accuses an individual of wrongdoing. It falls to the individual to prove his innocence. Rooted in the Judeo-Christian ethic, American law charges an individual with wrongdoing. It falls to the State to prove the guilt of the individual beyond a reasonable doubt.
America's own history tragically bears witness to the suffering experienced when our society ignores these definitive moral guideposts. Our collective Judeo-Christian heritage makes abundantly clear that a touchstone of a moral society, a G-dly society, which walks in the paths of righteousness, is that compassionate society, which cares for the poor and the afflicted. It is this compassion that creates the human being out of a mere homo-sapien.
Yet, in 1927, a case was brought before the United States Supreme Court known as Buck versus Bell. The case dealt with a woman by the name of Carrie Buck, who was determined unfit to reproduce because she was considered to be retarded. She had been placed in the Virginia State Colony for Epileptics and Feebleminded, where she was convinced to undergo a form of tubule ligation.
That determination of retardation was made by Harry Laughlin of the Eugenics Record Office in Cold Springs Harbor, New York, then the premier institution in the United States in the field of eugenics. Laughlin never met Carrie Buck, basing his decision largely upon the statement of a nurse who said the following regarding the Buck family. "These people belong to the shiftless, ignorant, and worthless class of antisocial whites of the South."
Laughlin determined that sterilization would be "a force for the mitigation of race degeneracy."
Basing his ruling on a Massachusetts law mandating vaccination for public school children. Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes, an icon of the liberal and progressive movements in the United States, wrote the following in his one-page ruling, "the principle that sustains compulsory vaccination is broad enough to cover cutting the fallopian tubes. It. is better for all the world, if instead of waiting to execute degenerate offspring for crime, or to let them starve for their imbecility, society can prevent those who are manifestly unfit from continuing their kind. Three generations of imbeciles are enough."
The only Justice dissenting from this opinion was Justice Pierce Butler, a Catholic, following the then common practice of the court not to write dissenting opinions. In a time when eugenics was considered all the rage in the United States, it was the Catholic Church, which stood in opposition to this godless approach to human life. It is important to note that the Supreme Court never formally rejected the fundamental principle in Buck versus Bell, generally referred to as negative eugenics, removing, in this instance, sterilizing "undesirable" individuals in society, much as one thins out weak cattle from the herd. The ultimate goal is the same – to create a super human being – the perfect American human specimen.
There comes to mind, the hellish spectre of a decrepit Hitler, slowly rising from his exalted seat in the pit of eternal damnation, with a confident smile of victory upon his face, raising his hand in the Nazi salute, mustering his last ounce of strength and shouting: "Ach meine kinder, meine kinder - Amerika über alles!"
President Washington, the proverbial Biblical Prophet, exorts us to be ever on the alert, ever vigilant, warning, "that no national morality can prevail in exclusion of religious principle." We must be ready to do battle in defense of this fundamental underpinning of American society, taking on those who would distort, and thereby weaken, the Judeo-Christian ethic, the very basis of this magnificent experiment in governance we call, the United States of America. The concept of religious freedom encapsulated in the first amendment to our Constitution defines our society. The very future of the United States depends upon it.
*****
"Reclaiming Religious Liberty the Most Cherished American Freedom"
An address by Rabbi Philip Lefkowitz,
Spiritual Leader of Agudas Achim North Shore Congregation & founding Chairman of the Legislative Commission of the Chicago Rabbinical Council
Delivered at Halas Hall, Lake Forest, Illinois, October 14, 2012
The First Amendment to our Constitution, in a heretofore-unprecedented statement, restricts the government from placing limits upon any religious practice or establishing a specific religion. Yet, in his farewell address to the nation, Pres. George Washington advises:
"Of all the dispositions and habits, which lead to political prosperity, Religion and Morality are indispensable supports." He continues "… And let us with caution indulge the supposition, that morality can be maintained without religion. Whatever may be conceded to the influence of refined education on minds of peculiar structure, reason and experience both forbid us to expect, that national morality can prevail in exclusion of religious principle."
Considering the revolutionary period, it is a bit odd that George Washington, the gentleman from Virginia, the General who led our forces to victory, who occupied the famed chair of the rising sun during the deliberations of the Continental Congress, as Benjamin Franklin noted, symbolic of the very birth of our nation, presents us with the seeming paradox of our country's unique principle foundation. While stressing the pivotal importance of religion in determining morality, he, as our other founding fathers, elected to create a society in which the government and the church are separate with the law protecting the church or more appropriately, the free expression of all religious denominations, from any interference by the government.
How did Washington understand this unique approach was to function? If religion is indispensable, how was it to affect our society, and the manner in which we govern ourselves?
May I suggest that it was understood by our first President, and indeed by all our founding fathers, that the principles by which our society would function both in terms of the daily interpersonal relationships of its citizens and the enactment of law by its government, would be based upon what we commonly refer to as the Judeo-Christian ethic, the shared moral values of Judaism and Christianity.
It is for us then to determine what exactly this cornerstone of society, this Judeo-Christian ethic actually means. May I, as a Rabbi, offer some understanding of it in terms of my Jewish tradition.
Unlike Christianity, which seeks its moral and ethical guidance through the concept of agape, love, as evidenced by G-d to man, and as expressed in the life of Jesus of Nazareth, Judaism sees its morality in the law. The first five books of the Old Testament contain 613 specific G-d ordained commandments. Expressed both in the positive and the negative, they constitute the rules and regulations by which a society must function and, in turn, its morality. Indeed they encompass the entire spectrum of human endeavor. In administering these laws, this Jewish morality, our judges, our rabbis, are instructed that, in situations where a specific law is not clearly found, they must go beyond the letter of the law, "doing what is right in the eyes of the L-rd" Deuteronomy 13:18, extrapolating from the law the moral direction required to deal with the situation placed before them. It is these laws, the laws found in the first five books of the Old Testament, the Torah, to which our founding fathers referred when developing our Constitution.
To highlight this point – It is clear from the Torah that, in administering justice, the individual whose actions are to be judged is considered innocent until proven guilty. It is the task of the prosecutor to bring forward the evidence necessary to convict the individual. One can postulate that this principle is premised upon the fact that G-d is our Creator and therefore our true judge, and only out of necessity is man allowed to stand in judgment over his fellow.
Considering the basis of British Common law, the law that was in force in the colonies prior to the Revolution, this foundational principle of American jurisprudence is a major departure. Rooted in the Divine right of kings to rule over their subjects, British law accuses an individual of wrongdoing. It falls to the individual to prove his innocence. Rooted in the Judeo-Christian ethic, American law charges an individual with wrongdoing. It falls to the State to prove the guilt of the individual beyond a reasonable doubt.
America's own history tragically bears witness to the suffering experienced when our society ignores these definitive moral guideposts. Our collective Judeo-Christian heritage makes abundantly clear that a touchstone of a moral society, a G-dly society, which walks in the paths of righteousness, is that compassionate society, which cares for the poor and the afflicted. It is this compassion that creates the human being out of a mere homo-sapien.
Yet, in 1927, a case was brought before the United States Supreme Court known as Buck versus Bell. The case dealt with a woman by the name of Carrie Buck, who was determined unfit to reproduce because she was considered to be retarded. She had been placed in the Virginia State Colony for Epileptics and Feebleminded, where she was convinced to undergo a form of tubule ligation.
That determination of retardation was made by Harry Laughlin of the Eugenics Record Office in Cold Springs Harbor, New York, then the premier institution in the United States in the field of eugenics. Laughlin never met Carrie Buck, basing his decision largely upon the statement of a nurse who said the following regarding the Buck family. "These people belong to the shiftless, ignorant, and worthless class of antisocial whites of the South."
Laughlin determined that sterilization would be "a force for the mitigation of race degeneracy."
Basing his ruling on a Massachusetts law mandating vaccination for public school children. Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes, an icon of the liberal and progressive movements in the United States, wrote the following in his one-page ruling, "the principle that sustains compulsory vaccination is broad enough to cover cutting the fallopian tubes. It. is better for all the world, if instead of waiting to execute degenerate offspring for crime, or to let them starve for their imbecility, society can prevent those who are manifestly unfit from continuing their kind. Three generations of imbeciles are enough."
The only Justice dissenting from this opinion was Justice Pierce Butler, a Catholic, following the then common practice of the court not to write dissenting opinions. In a time when eugenics was considered all the rage in the United States, it was the Catholic Church, which stood in opposition to this godless approach to human life. It is important to note that the Supreme Court never formally rejected the fundamental principle in Buck versus Bell, generally referred to as negative eugenics, removing, in this instance, sterilizing "undesirable" individuals in society, much as one thins out weak cattle from the herd. The ultimate goal is the same – to create a super human being – the perfect American human specimen.
There comes to mind, the hellish spectre of a decrepit Hitler, slowly rising from his exalted seat in the pit of eternal damnation, with a confident smile of victory upon his face, raising his hand in the Nazi salute, mustering his last ounce of strength and shouting: "Ach meine kinder, meine kinder - Amerika über alles!"
President Washington, the proverbial Biblical Prophet, exorts us to be ever on the alert, ever vigilant, warning, "that no national morality can prevail in exclusion of religious principle." We must be ready to do battle in defense of this fundamental underpinning of American society, taking on those who would distort, and thereby weaken, the Judeo-Christian ethic, the very basis of this magnificent experiment in governance we call, the United States of America. The concept of religious freedom encapsulated in the first amendment to our Constitution defines our society. The very future of the United States depends upon it.
Monday, 15 October 2012
My Debate with Pastor Ted Haggard over Same Sex Marriages
The debate lasts just 10 minutes but it clearly was a thoughtful exchange.
Please take a look at
Rabbi Ben Hecht
Sunday, 14 October 2012
Understanding the History of M'zigat Hakkos
«... But the most dramatic difference between Roman and modern wine is that the Romans never drank wine on its own; they always mixed it with other ingredients. Indeed, the practice of drinking wine straight was regarded as barbaric. Most often, wine was simply diluted. The amount of water added depended on the circumstances (it was up to the host to decide) and the temperature, *but the proportions were typically one part wine to three parts water.* Diluting wine served two purposes:The history of drinking: Uncorking the past | The Economist
• it made it into a thirst-quenching drink that could be consumed in large quantities, and
• the presence of alcohol also made the water safe to drink, an important consideration in the growing cities of the Roman Empire, as it still was in 18th-century Europe.»
http://www.economist.com/node/883706
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Friday, 12 October 2012
Torah, She Wrote - A Sign of the Times
« In 2007, Taylor Friedman, now 32, was believed to have become the first known soferet, or female ritual scribe, to complete a Torah scroll in modern times. Today she is working on her fourth, and estimates by various people of the number of other women working as sofrot range from nine to 50. But acceptance of the practice is still confined to a small community.»
Torah, She Wrote - Jerusalem Post - Jewish Ideas Daily
http://www.jidaily.com/3431b?utm_source=Jewish+Ideas+Daily+Insider&utm_campaign=8683e00953-Insider&utm_medium=email
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Thursday, 11 October 2012
Online Text of Kitzur SA
This is from Rav Amnon Yitzchak's Shofar site,
קיצור שולחן ערוך
http://www.shofar.net/Content/Kitzur_Shulchan.htm?id=5417
Shalom and Regards,
RRW
קיצור שולחן ערוך
http://www.shofar.net/Content/Kitzur_Shulchan.htm?id=5417
Shalom and Regards,
RRW
Wednesday, 10 October 2012
Jewish Tribune: A Child and Decision to Convert (1)
There was a case recently, in England, which was reported as allowing a Jewish ten-year-old girl to convert to Christianity. That was not the actual decision, though. What the case still revealed, however, were not adversities for us from the outside world but, rather, problems and weaknesses in our modern understandings of Jewishness.
In a series of articles in the Jewish Tribune, I further investigate this. For the first in the series, please see
http://www.jewishtribune.ca/commentary/2012/10/10/a-child-and-decision-to-convert-1
Rabbi Ben Hecht
In a series of articles in the Jewish Tribune, I further investigate this. For the first in the series, please see
http://www.jewishtribune.ca/commentary/2012/10/10/a-child-and-decision-to-convert-1
Rabbi Ben Hecht
Tuesday, 9 October 2012
Israel's Prospects under a 2nd Term
«In my view, the number one danger Israel faces is not Iran, but Egypt.
A radical regime now exists in Cairo that wants to wipe Israel off the map, is willing to help Hamas - which rules the Gaza Strip - on that project, and might get directly involved itself.
During Obama's second term, Israel is likely to face sporadic attacks from the Gaza Strip that periodically it will have to retaliate against. Obama will remain aloof on this problem, which isn't good but is manageable. The real difficulty is whether Hamas launches an all-out attack as it did in late 2008.
But this time it would have some level of Egyptian support. Such help could take many forms: ...»
What Does Israel Do If Obama Is Reelected? | JewishPress
http://www.jewishpress.com/indepth/analysis/rubin-reports/what-does-israel-do-if-obama-is-reelected/2012/10/04/
Shalom and Best Reagrds,
RRW
Saturday, 6 October 2012
Mussar: Say Something Positive
From Derech Emet
from Positive Word Power by The Chafetz Chaim Heritage Foundation, based on the work of Rabbi Zelig Pliskin:
Gmar Tov,
Best Wishes for 5773!
from Positive Word Power by The Chafetz Chaim Heritage Foundation, based on the work of Rabbi Zelig Pliskin:
The positive word is so powerful that one may not bypass the opportunity to speak it.
Noticing something positive about someone, thinking it, but not saying it is wrong.
Gmar Tov,
Best Wishes for 5773!
Friday, 5 October 2012
Ve'yerei Shamayim Yeitzei et Kulam
Many have "alleged" that the Mishnah B'rurah and others invented or devised a system to be Yotzei y'dei kol Hasheetot
Yet in a Recent M"B Yomit I ran across this same sentiment in the M'chabbeir
See SA O"Ch 15:4 with regard to torn corners of a begged having Tzitzis. The 2 Sheetot mentioned are Rashi and Rav Amram Gaon. There are also 2 Sheetot as to how to "read" or to "understand" Rav Amram Gaon's P'sak.
Ayyein Sham.
Gmar Tov,
Best Wishes for 5773!
Yet in a Recent M"B Yomit I ran across this same sentiment in the M'chabbeir
See SA O"Ch 15:4 with regard to torn corners of a begged having Tzitzis. The 2 Sheetot mentioned are Rashi and Rav Amram Gaon. There are also 2 Sheetot as to how to "read" or to "understand" Rav Amram Gaon's P'sak.
Ayyein Sham.
Gmar Tov,
Best Wishes for 5773!
Thursday, 4 October 2012
US Supreme Court Rejects Rubashkin's Appeal
«In urging justices to deny the appeal, the Office of the Solicitor General argued Rubashkin failed to prove that Reade should have recused herself or that he suffered any actual bias as a result. Reade has said that she was never informed who the target of the raid would be or where it would take place. Instead, she was involved in bringing in enough judges and court staff to have hearings at an offsite location, the National Cattle Congress in Waterloo, which was used because of the large number of defendants.
The solicitor general's office also noted that Rubashkin's sentence was within advisory guidelines.
The 8th Circuit Court of Appeals upheld the conviction and sentence last year.»
http://tinyurl.com/9bwz4l6
Gmar Tov,
Best Wishes for 5773!
Wednesday, 3 October 2012
Is Attacking Jihad Equivalent to Attacking All Moslems?
«... woman who stood between a self-professed activist's spray painting attack of an anti-jihad poster in New York City told MailOnline she plans to sue over the encounter.
Speaking exclusively, Pamela Hall said that during her 'defense of free speech' her clothing and her equipment was damaged by Mona Eltahawy, 45, an Egyptian-born U.S. activist.
Eltahawy was arrested Tuesday on charges of criminal mischief and making graffiti for spray painting an advertisement equating Muslim radicals with savages inside a subway station.»
Mona Eltahawy: EXCLUSIVE: Woman 'attacked' while defending anti-jihad subway ad plans to sue 'activist' who sprayed HER | Mail Online
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2209227/Mona-Eltahawy-EXCLUSIVE-Woman-attacked-defending-anti-jihad-subway-ad-plans-sue-activist-sprayed-HER.html
Gmar Tov,
Best Wishes for 5773!
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